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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 552880" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Dash...do you want some personal experience? Maybe this is some sort of female bipolar thing or a manifestation of borderline but I was convinced for several years that I was either gay or bisexual. Heck I am not sure even now that I am not bisexual but I am in a long term monogamous relationship with a man. I have no clue what would happen if we werent together. I cant say since I have been with him since I was 2 when I left that lifestyle. </p><p></p><p>I was into boys in a big way until a girl started paying a ton of attention to me at the age of 18. I think the operative word here is that I was into anyone who paid attention to me and filled that part of me that was missing inside me. Of course none of it lasted. Nothing could fill what was missing because it came from a lifetime of abuse. I had to fix myself before I could ever love anyone or accept love. Girls also felt a bit safer because its a different type of relationship. Yes it is shocking and some of that is for the shock value but also girls can understand each other in ways guys just cant. Most likely this is a passing phase. Dont give her much of a reaction. For god's sake dont do what my mother did and forbid her to see this person because that will just drive her more deeply into the forbidden. My mom and the other girls parents freaked out which was really stupid. The other girl was a lifelong lesbian and she came after me but her mother blamed me. Both sets of parents took our cars away from us. That is why we were walking home from school on that fateful day and got kidnapped and raped. If they had just left us alone none of that would have happened. I know without a doubt we would have gone our separate ways probably not long after that because I was scheduled to go to college. She wasnt. I would have probably striven for a long distance relationship but this was 1980 and that never works. I would have moved on and so would she. I have no doubt I would have met someone in college. Instead things worked out in awful ways. I have no idea where she is now but my life went to hell in a hand basket. </p><p></p><p>Ok, another secret out of the bag.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 552880, member: 1514"] Dash...do you want some personal experience? Maybe this is some sort of female bipolar thing or a manifestation of borderline but I was convinced for several years that I was either gay or bisexual. Heck I am not sure even now that I am not bisexual but I am in a long term monogamous relationship with a man. I have no clue what would happen if we werent together. I cant say since I have been with him since I was 2 when I left that lifestyle. I was into boys in a big way until a girl started paying a ton of attention to me at the age of 18. I think the operative word here is that I was into anyone who paid attention to me and filled that part of me that was missing inside me. Of course none of it lasted. Nothing could fill what was missing because it came from a lifetime of abuse. I had to fix myself before I could ever love anyone or accept love. Girls also felt a bit safer because its a different type of relationship. Yes it is shocking and some of that is for the shock value but also girls can understand each other in ways guys just cant. Most likely this is a passing phase. Dont give her much of a reaction. For god's sake dont do what my mother did and forbid her to see this person because that will just drive her more deeply into the forbidden. My mom and the other girls parents freaked out which was really stupid. The other girl was a lifelong lesbian and she came after me but her mother blamed me. Both sets of parents took our cars away from us. That is why we were walking home from school on that fateful day and got kidnapped and raped. If they had just left us alone none of that would have happened. I know without a doubt we would have gone our separate ways probably not long after that because I was scheduled to go to college. She wasnt. I would have probably striven for a long distance relationship but this was 1980 and that never works. I would have moved on and so would she. I have no doubt I would have met someone in college. Instead things worked out in awful ways. I have no idea where she is now but my life went to hell in a hand basket. Ok, another secret out of the bag. [/QUOTE]
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