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<blockquote data-quote="KFld" data-source="post: 50317" data-attributes="member: 2442"><p>It's funny you bring this subject up, because my mother in law was just saying the other day that she hopes someday D.J. can meet somebody, outside of the program, and realize he doesn't have to live in the soberhouse forever. She made some comment like, does D.J. realize if he meets somebody and gets married someday he can't live in a soberhouse with her? I understood what she was saying, because I think once they get a good amount of sobriety behind them, they should be able to function in the "real world" and live day to day among people other then recovering addicts, but I reminded my mother in law that when difficult child moved away from that type of living too quickly last year he relapsed and that I think he needs to stay living where he is now for longer and that 8 months really isn't that long of a time when it comes to recovery. I know she really doesn't understand, though she has always been very supportive, but she worries more about him going back to school and buying a home and having a career, where I can look back at a year ago when I never thought him being 8 months clean and working full time and supporting himself would ever happen. She comes from a family of Doctors, real estate agents, builders, all types of people who own their own successful businesses, so I know it drives her crazy to think that her grandson may work at a hobby shop for the rest of his life, as she puts it. </p><p></p><p>I think everyone in recovery is different. I know people who have been in recovery for many many years who still go to meetings weekly, and others who get enough tools behind them to continue to remain clean and sober without continuing the program forever. </p><p></p><p>I do understand what you are saying though. Drug addicts and alcoholics are difficult child's and we would all like to see our children someday become easy child's, but if they always associate themselves with difficult child's, you have to wonder how they will become easy child's. I don't blame you for being concerned about your grandchild always being around difficult child's. It is a different world!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KFld, post: 50317, member: 2442"] It's funny you bring this subject up, because my mother in law was just saying the other day that she hopes someday D.J. can meet somebody, outside of the program, and realize he doesn't have to live in the soberhouse forever. She made some comment like, does D.J. realize if he meets somebody and gets married someday he can't live in a soberhouse with her? I understood what she was saying, because I think once they get a good amount of sobriety behind them, they should be able to function in the "real world" and live day to day among people other then recovering addicts, but I reminded my mother in law that when difficult child moved away from that type of living too quickly last year he relapsed and that I think he needs to stay living where he is now for longer and that 8 months really isn't that long of a time when it comes to recovery. I know she really doesn't understand, though she has always been very supportive, but she worries more about him going back to school and buying a home and having a career, where I can look back at a year ago when I never thought him being 8 months clean and working full time and supporting himself would ever happen. She comes from a family of Doctors, real estate agents, builders, all types of people who own their own successful businesses, so I know it drives her crazy to think that her grandson may work at a hobby shop for the rest of his life, as she puts it. I think everyone in recovery is different. I know people who have been in recovery for many many years who still go to meetings weekly, and others who get enough tools behind them to continue to remain clean and sober without continuing the program forever. I do understand what you are saying though. Drug addicts and alcoholics are difficult child's and we would all like to see our children someday become easy child's, but if they always associate themselves with difficult child's, you have to wonder how they will become easy child's. I don't blame you for being concerned about your grandchild always being around difficult child's. It is a different world! [/QUOTE]
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