TYLERFAN
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Hi Family:
difficult child is approx 4 months sober. :bravo:
She has a part time job at a grocery store as a cashier......she likes it :smile: God....Please let her last at it!
Last weekend when SO and I were having a disagreement, she stayed in the back ground and very low key, and sympathetic. All signs of a maturing difficult child, I think.
Still I ponder the rest of her life and that of my Grandson....
If she truly has a disease called drug addiction.....and she does.....will she forever be surrounded by those similarly afflicted? Will my precious Grandbaby grow up among a group of people who are at a constant propensity for relapse?
The doctrines of NA, loosely stated here, are the theory that "addicts help addicts stay sober". A deep theory which on it's face makes perfect sense and has great potential to work as long as the person is willing to "work it". Let's face it, my difficult child and the ones I've seen traveling the churches and meeting halls of the NA "Rooms"....are going to stumble and falter throughout their lives. I have seen few who have acheived long lasting sobriety. The doctrine not being at fault, but the individual.
You have to wonder at what point the addict no longer relies on the "group" to help him as he has learned to "help" himself. At what point should the addict take himself out of the group and integrate himself into non-difficult child life? There doesn't seem to be allowance for this contingency. I guess some manage to do it. I know my difficult child won't ever totally do it.
I know I'm rambling here, I just want the best life for this little boy, and so far, I don't see it with difficult child.
Blessings,
Melissa
difficult child is approx 4 months sober. :bravo:
She has a part time job at a grocery store as a cashier......she likes it :smile: God....Please let her last at it!
Last weekend when SO and I were having a disagreement, she stayed in the back ground and very low key, and sympathetic. All signs of a maturing difficult child, I think.
Still I ponder the rest of her life and that of my Grandson....
If she truly has a disease called drug addiction.....and she does.....will she forever be surrounded by those similarly afflicted? Will my precious Grandbaby grow up among a group of people who are at a constant propensity for relapse?
The doctrines of NA, loosely stated here, are the theory that "addicts help addicts stay sober". A deep theory which on it's face makes perfect sense and has great potential to work as long as the person is willing to "work it". Let's face it, my difficult child and the ones I've seen traveling the churches and meeting halls of the NA "Rooms"....are going to stumble and falter throughout their lives. I have seen few who have acheived long lasting sobriety. The doctrine not being at fault, but the individual.
You have to wonder at what point the addict no longer relies on the "group" to help him as he has learned to "help" himself. At what point should the addict take himself out of the group and integrate himself into non-difficult child life? There doesn't seem to be allowance for this contingency. I guess some manage to do it. I know my difficult child won't ever totally do it.
I know I'm rambling here, I just want the best life for this little boy, and so far, I don't see it with difficult child.
Blessings,
Melissa