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<blockquote data-quote="Broken_Hearted" data-source="post: 540683" data-attributes="member: 14909"><p>Thank you so much for your welcoming post and your advice. I appreciate it so much- </p><p></p><p> I should get him committed - I agree - but I also failed to mention that when I was slightly "tired of it all" and after the doctor told me it would take years for him to trust me again - I texted to my son that I would not try to get him into the ER or rehab again. It was extremely traumatic for him having the Sherrif come and chain him in front of all of his "friends", and when I emailed him this I was thinking about what the Doctor told me. I am afraid that broken promises/words are even worse from a parent so if I go ahead and do it it now....it might really mentally break him( and I feel so stupid for having emailed him that I wouldn't).</p><p></p><p> The doctor did tell me he had a perfect doctor for my son to see on an outpatient basis. And I think if he starts outpatient treatment - if he fails - he is then put into rehab inpatient? But you are so right time is ticking - in 4 months he'll be 18. My gosh - I feel for everyone else here to this is like living between h*ll and limbo - never knowing if your child is going to end up dead the next time around.</p><p></p><p>I wish I could somehow get someone else to file the paper work so he didn't think it was me who did it. I just can't believe MUSC didn't treat him. They saw all the burn marks on his arm, the drugs in his system <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> . A man in the therapeutic Sherrif's transport office forewarned me that if he was a good manipulator he would be able to get out of being sent to rehab - which he did.</p><p></p><p>My son is hurt and destroyed - in so many ways. It tears me apart even more knowing he is a good kid with a good heart - but is just so hurt and so devastated by the events in his life -that he is on self destruct mode...and seems to want to take me down with him. If he had a normal childhood - or had received some therapy or treatment - I would not feel as bad. In other words he's def on self destruct mode.</p><p>*sigh*</p><p></p><p>I agree it is the desire for drugs that has fueled him into "hating me". He knows that I can pick up on the drug use...and or drug activity. At my 84 year old grandparent's house - he can do whatever he wants...</p><p></p><p>And yes - I do need to take care of myself - thank you this is so true - this was an abbreviated version of the events - every time he's been sent to jail/ in the ER I put my life on hold. I have a job in a different state - and I fly back time after time something happens back and forth- and my finances are in ruin due to this ( my finances aren't more important than his life) but without money - how am I to help him or myself? Last year I tried flying him out to live with me but he wanted to stay in SC ( I had no idea he was an addict then)</p><p></p><p>My mind gest shocked - like a frozen feeling - and I become like a numb robot with each bad news incident - and with waiting on pins and needles. It's like a dear in head light feeling - for months on end!</p><p></p><p>I do need to learn how to cope better and how to "detach" as I have read some of the posters talking about here..</p><p></p><p>Once again , thank you for you for your input and kindness - and I am glad I found this place...</p><p></p><p><3</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Broken_Hearted, post: 540683, member: 14909"] Thank you so much for your welcoming post and your advice. I appreciate it so much- I should get him committed - I agree - but I also failed to mention that when I was slightly "tired of it all" and after the doctor told me it would take years for him to trust me again - I texted to my son that I would not try to get him into the ER or rehab again. It was extremely traumatic for him having the Sherrif come and chain him in front of all of his "friends", and when I emailed him this I was thinking about what the Doctor told me. I am afraid that broken promises/words are even worse from a parent so if I go ahead and do it it now....it might really mentally break him( and I feel so stupid for having emailed him that I wouldn't). The doctor did tell me he had a perfect doctor for my son to see on an outpatient basis. And I think if he starts outpatient treatment - if he fails - he is then put into rehab inpatient? But you are so right time is ticking - in 4 months he'll be 18. My gosh - I feel for everyone else here to this is like living between h*ll and limbo - never knowing if your child is going to end up dead the next time around. I wish I could somehow get someone else to file the paper work so he didn't think it was me who did it. I just can't believe MUSC didn't treat him. They saw all the burn marks on his arm, the drugs in his system :( . A man in the therapeutic Sherrif's transport office forewarned me that if he was a good manipulator he would be able to get out of being sent to rehab - which he did. My son is hurt and destroyed - in so many ways. It tears me apart even more knowing he is a good kid with a good heart - but is just so hurt and so devastated by the events in his life -that he is on self destruct mode...and seems to want to take me down with him. If he had a normal childhood - or had received some therapy or treatment - I would not feel as bad. In other words he's def on self destruct mode. *sigh* I agree it is the desire for drugs that has fueled him into "hating me". He knows that I can pick up on the drug use...and or drug activity. At my 84 year old grandparent's house - he can do whatever he wants... And yes - I do need to take care of myself - thank you this is so true - this was an abbreviated version of the events - every time he's been sent to jail/ in the ER I put my life on hold. I have a job in a different state - and I fly back time after time something happens back and forth- and my finances are in ruin due to this ( my finances aren't more important than his life) but without money - how am I to help him or myself? Last year I tried flying him out to live with me but he wanted to stay in SC ( I had no idea he was an addict then) My mind gest shocked - like a frozen feeling - and I become like a numb robot with each bad news incident - and with waiting on pins and needles. It's like a dear in head light feeling - for months on end! I do need to learn how to cope better and how to "detach" as I have read some of the posters talking about here.. Once again , thank you for you for your input and kindness - and I am glad I found this place... <3 [/QUOTE]
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