Broken_Hearted
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Hello! I am new to the forum. Was scouring google for advice on addict teens and found this page.
I am frozen & lost.
I have a 17 years old who started off by using pot - later found out he was using spice - cough syrup
I had no idea what was going on - with his personality. Was clueless he was so heavy into drugs.
He was arrested for various small offenses ( hanging out with the wrong people at the wrong time ) - and then he invited a "friend" to live over at our house. That "friend" was arrested for stealing ( felony level) and the empty coin boxes of what he stole were in my son's closet so my son was charged with receiving stolen goods.
He allowed someone to burn his arm with a cigar -all over his arm. When he found out he was going to be arrested for Felony charges - he freaked out and said he would rather commit suicide than go to jail. He was then sent to a mental hospital under suicide "watch".
A day later we got a call that he had escaped from the mental hospital!!!! We were told the last place he was seen was by the river by a chemical plant. I had a nervous break down because I thought he had died.
A month later I was able to hack into his facebook account and found out where he was. I thought the Sherrif's theraputic unit would pick him up and take him to rehab ; but that was not the case. It turns out there was a bench warrant for him and he was sent to adult jail.
After being in jail he admitted to me that a 37 year old man - who is a felon with previous heroin distribution charges had given him free samples of heroin.
So for the first time I realized my son was doing much harder drugs , than I could have ever imagined. He told me while in jail that he was doing the drugs to mask the pain.
My son - like another poster I read here - started going downhill after being beat up so badly he was brought semi unconcious to the hospital with a concussion. That is when he started hanging around a crowd that acted like a 'gang' and he started into the heavy drug use. His first girlfriend dumped him, and he was severely depressed.
After spending two months in adult jail. I was out of state when I bailed him out - my last few words to him on the phone after bailing him out were "stay at home until I get back" ( he stays with my grandparents due the legal issues because he can not leave the state due to arrests court ect). Well as soon as I flew back - that very same day - he left my grandparents house. He went on a drug drinking binge. Even his friends were texting me telling me he would end up in a coffin.
A week later - I finally found him. At the emergency room. He was found half naked on the beach. He had scratches all over the back of his neck.He was still high and drunk. I was so thankful he was alive - and my mom and I were happy he would finally get treatment. I wanted to send him the MUSC ( Medical University of South Carolina) which the the best treatment place for teens. The nurses were already getting a bed ready for him in the psychiatric ward - until a social worker came and told interviewed him.
My son's behavior was bizarre. He tested positive for marijuana and alcohol. But he was acting high as if on something else (probably cough syrup and or spice)Much to our dismay - while my mom and I were out side - the social worker let him go at 11 o'clock at night - barefoot- and still drunk high. When I asked for his paperwork - and asked why she did this she said , "He's an adult (17) he can do what he wants"
This was not the first time he was in the ER - previously he had been in the ER for overdosing on alcohol and cough syrup.
My mind was shocked and aghast that they decided not to treat him.
I did not hear from him for a few more days. When I did he called me up screaming at me in a drug/alcohol induced stupor , saying if I didn't send him money he was going to call the police and a lawyer on me for child abuse. I was shocked! He and his friends took turns on the phone laughing calling me names that were terribly sexually derogatory.
I was shocked. I remained calm as I knew he was on heavy drugs - and warned him to please be careful and to come home.
All this time my family and myself ( including my 80 year old grandparents) were living on pins and needles not only worried about his health but worried also because he was out on bond - and their house was (and still is) on the line as collateral!
Well we got a call that he was in a juvenile detention center in another state. He had run from the police after they approached him and asked him for his name and he gave a false name and then ran.
He stayed in juvi for a month. Last week I went to go pick him up. He was angry and violent towards me. We had some happy time - for a while where he laughed and smiled - but as soon as we got back to my grandparents house ( 7 hours drive) he became violent and almost psychotic. For the first time in my life I was afraid of my own son. He called the police - and tried to tell my grandparents I did it. He tore his shirt up. He did break down in tears though when he saw his great grandparents. He looked at me after calling the police and said, "You are going to get the **** out of this house."
I was shocked - I had never seen someone turn and change personality like that. Also after picking him up and treating him so kindly, trying to give him love and support - there was no thank you no nothing.
The next day my grandmother and I brought him to MUSC ( Medical University of South Carolina) he promised both of us he would seek rehab. The psychiatric doctor urged him to seek rehab but he refused. He wiggled his way out of it by lying to my grandma and stating that he had court in 4 days ( which was a lie).
In private the doctor urged me to go to the local drug treatment place and get him court ordered into rehab - as he could not because it was only an outpatient place of the hospital.
Well I went back to my mothers after my son promised my 84 year old grandmother he would behave. Three days later he was posting on Facebook angry messages at the kids who (were involved in the theft of the coins but did not get charged ) and angry messages to his girlfriend.
When I read that about 10 kids were planning on hurting my son and my son was urging them to come and get him - I went to the drug rehab to get papers ordered to pick him up from the place he was at ( he was staying with the drug dealer who brought him up to Tennessse where he was arrested). I feared for his life and his safety. Plus I knew he was on some heavy drugs because of the way he was typing.
The theraputic unit got him and brought him into MUSC. Once again I was relieved - that he was finally going to receive help. Much to my shock and dismay - even though he is 17 and tested positive for cocaine - and opiates - weed - and alcohol ( plus found empty bottles of air duster in his room which I showed to the hospital ) THEY LET HIM GO!
I broke down crying in tears - for an hour in the ER. I could not believe it.
It turns out he is an adult ( 17) and did not qualify to stay because the paper work was not court ordered by the judge and were just for evaluation.Also he was not showing any "acute " symptoms from the drugs.
The psychiatrist didn't even interview me - instead I was asked by the nurse staff who was his legal guardian.
I went the next day back to the Charleston Center and filed for commitment papers.
Now I'm in a dilema. My son hates me so much now. He think I was the one who turned him in and got him arrested the first time, and now he was humilated be having the psychiatric unit come and get him at his "friends" house.
He's been at my grandparents house for a few days now - and no problems - except for the facebook fighting.
I don't know what to do - he told me over the phone that he likes to rub it in my face that he is not sent to rehab each time he goes to the er. He yelled at me and told me he knew how to pass drugs tests , and that from now on he was only going to drink and try to hurt himself by drinking. Plus he informed me that I didn't know that each time he has been in the ER he has been telling the staff that I am a schizophrenic ( totally not true) and that I am am a heavy drinker and pill popper ! ( Totally not true either). He also tells them terrible sexual accusations about me. Now I know why I can never get him help! The good thing is I caught this on tape - I recorded it.
Now - the doctor he saw at the MUSC ( who urged me to get him committed) returned my call - and he said he was surprised the hospital let him go.
Now that I have the paperwork for commitment /rehab I told the doctor how angry my son was at me. He told me that I might want to have someone else do the commitment so that he won't blame me - but I have nobody else.
So now I am stuck - of course common sense tells me to get him committed - but he's been locked up for over 3 months total now in jail - and I am afraid he'll be so full of hate in anger if he gets committed - that the rehab will be futile.
So I suppose all I have to do is wait until he get sent to the ER - or in jail? Or just pray he get through this.
I can NOT believe how NEGLIGENT the hospitals have been in believing and addict's words over his mother - but he is a master manipulator....
Should I have him committed? My god I just really don't know what to do ...
Thanks for any advice input...
I'd like to add that my son has had some traumatic things happen to him in his childhood and recently as well. He also told me for the first time that he was raped when he was younger. He has NEVER recieved therapy or treatment of any kind....
I am frozen & lost.
I have a 17 years old who started off by using pot - later found out he was using spice - cough syrup
I had no idea what was going on - with his personality. Was clueless he was so heavy into drugs.
He was arrested for various small offenses ( hanging out with the wrong people at the wrong time ) - and then he invited a "friend" to live over at our house. That "friend" was arrested for stealing ( felony level) and the empty coin boxes of what he stole were in my son's closet so my son was charged with receiving stolen goods.
He allowed someone to burn his arm with a cigar -all over his arm. When he found out he was going to be arrested for Felony charges - he freaked out and said he would rather commit suicide than go to jail. He was then sent to a mental hospital under suicide "watch".
A day later we got a call that he had escaped from the mental hospital!!!! We were told the last place he was seen was by the river by a chemical plant. I had a nervous break down because I thought he had died.
A month later I was able to hack into his facebook account and found out where he was. I thought the Sherrif's theraputic unit would pick him up and take him to rehab ; but that was not the case. It turns out there was a bench warrant for him and he was sent to adult jail.
After being in jail he admitted to me that a 37 year old man - who is a felon with previous heroin distribution charges had given him free samples of heroin.
So for the first time I realized my son was doing much harder drugs , than I could have ever imagined. He told me while in jail that he was doing the drugs to mask the pain.
My son - like another poster I read here - started going downhill after being beat up so badly he was brought semi unconcious to the hospital with a concussion. That is when he started hanging around a crowd that acted like a 'gang' and he started into the heavy drug use. His first girlfriend dumped him, and he was severely depressed.
After spending two months in adult jail. I was out of state when I bailed him out - my last few words to him on the phone after bailing him out were "stay at home until I get back" ( he stays with my grandparents due the legal issues because he can not leave the state due to arrests court ect). Well as soon as I flew back - that very same day - he left my grandparents house. He went on a drug drinking binge. Even his friends were texting me telling me he would end up in a coffin.
A week later - I finally found him. At the emergency room. He was found half naked on the beach. He had scratches all over the back of his neck.He was still high and drunk. I was so thankful he was alive - and my mom and I were happy he would finally get treatment. I wanted to send him the MUSC ( Medical University of South Carolina) which the the best treatment place for teens. The nurses were already getting a bed ready for him in the psychiatric ward - until a social worker came and told interviewed him.
My son's behavior was bizarre. He tested positive for marijuana and alcohol. But he was acting high as if on something else (probably cough syrup and or spice)Much to our dismay - while my mom and I were out side - the social worker let him go at 11 o'clock at night - barefoot- and still drunk high. When I asked for his paperwork - and asked why she did this she said , "He's an adult (17) he can do what he wants"
This was not the first time he was in the ER - previously he had been in the ER for overdosing on alcohol and cough syrup.
My mind was shocked and aghast that they decided not to treat him.
I did not hear from him for a few more days. When I did he called me up screaming at me in a drug/alcohol induced stupor , saying if I didn't send him money he was going to call the police and a lawyer on me for child abuse. I was shocked! He and his friends took turns on the phone laughing calling me names that were terribly sexually derogatory.
I was shocked. I remained calm as I knew he was on heavy drugs - and warned him to please be careful and to come home.
All this time my family and myself ( including my 80 year old grandparents) were living on pins and needles not only worried about his health but worried also because he was out on bond - and their house was (and still is) on the line as collateral!
Well we got a call that he was in a juvenile detention center in another state. He had run from the police after they approached him and asked him for his name and he gave a false name and then ran.
He stayed in juvi for a month. Last week I went to go pick him up. He was angry and violent towards me. We had some happy time - for a while where he laughed and smiled - but as soon as we got back to my grandparents house ( 7 hours drive) he became violent and almost psychotic. For the first time in my life I was afraid of my own son. He called the police - and tried to tell my grandparents I did it. He tore his shirt up. He did break down in tears though when he saw his great grandparents. He looked at me after calling the police and said, "You are going to get the **** out of this house."
I was shocked - I had never seen someone turn and change personality like that. Also after picking him up and treating him so kindly, trying to give him love and support - there was no thank you no nothing.
The next day my grandmother and I brought him to MUSC ( Medical University of South Carolina) he promised both of us he would seek rehab. The psychiatric doctor urged him to seek rehab but he refused. He wiggled his way out of it by lying to my grandma and stating that he had court in 4 days ( which was a lie).
In private the doctor urged me to go to the local drug treatment place and get him court ordered into rehab - as he could not because it was only an outpatient place of the hospital.
Well I went back to my mothers after my son promised my 84 year old grandmother he would behave. Three days later he was posting on Facebook angry messages at the kids who (were involved in the theft of the coins but did not get charged ) and angry messages to his girlfriend.
When I read that about 10 kids were planning on hurting my son and my son was urging them to come and get him - I went to the drug rehab to get papers ordered to pick him up from the place he was at ( he was staying with the drug dealer who brought him up to Tennessse where he was arrested). I feared for his life and his safety. Plus I knew he was on some heavy drugs because of the way he was typing.
The theraputic unit got him and brought him into MUSC. Once again I was relieved - that he was finally going to receive help. Much to my shock and dismay - even though he is 17 and tested positive for cocaine - and opiates - weed - and alcohol ( plus found empty bottles of air duster in his room which I showed to the hospital ) THEY LET HIM GO!
I broke down crying in tears - for an hour in the ER. I could not believe it.
It turns out he is an adult ( 17) and did not qualify to stay because the paper work was not court ordered by the judge and were just for evaluation.Also he was not showing any "acute " symptoms from the drugs.
The psychiatrist didn't even interview me - instead I was asked by the nurse staff who was his legal guardian.
I went the next day back to the Charleston Center and filed for commitment papers.
Now I'm in a dilema. My son hates me so much now. He think I was the one who turned him in and got him arrested the first time, and now he was humilated be having the psychiatric unit come and get him at his "friends" house.
He's been at my grandparents house for a few days now - and no problems - except for the facebook fighting.
I don't know what to do - he told me over the phone that he likes to rub it in my face that he is not sent to rehab each time he goes to the er. He yelled at me and told me he knew how to pass drugs tests , and that from now on he was only going to drink and try to hurt himself by drinking. Plus he informed me that I didn't know that each time he has been in the ER he has been telling the staff that I am a schizophrenic ( totally not true) and that I am am a heavy drinker and pill popper ! ( Totally not true either). He also tells them terrible sexual accusations about me. Now I know why I can never get him help! The good thing is I caught this on tape - I recorded it.
Now - the doctor he saw at the MUSC ( who urged me to get him committed) returned my call - and he said he was surprised the hospital let him go.
Now that I have the paperwork for commitment /rehab I told the doctor how angry my son was at me. He told me that I might want to have someone else do the commitment so that he won't blame me - but I have nobody else.
So now I am stuck - of course common sense tells me to get him committed - but he's been locked up for over 3 months total now in jail - and I am afraid he'll be so full of hate in anger if he gets committed - that the rehab will be futile.
So I suppose all I have to do is wait until he get sent to the ER - or in jail? Or just pray he get through this.
I can NOT believe how NEGLIGENT the hospitals have been in believing and addict's words over his mother - but he is a master manipulator....
Should I have him committed? My god I just really don't know what to do ...
Thanks for any advice input...
I'd like to add that my son has had some traumatic things happen to him in his childhood and recently as well. He also told me for the first time that he was raped when he was younger. He has NEVER recieved therapy or treatment of any kind....
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