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<blockquote data-quote="Broken_Hearted" data-source="post: 540699" data-attributes="member: 14909"><p><em>And stop blaming yourself. I know that one too... many of us do. One of the things they say in alanon is the three C's you didn't cause it, you cant cure it and you cant control it... and that is very very true. You did not pour booze or drugs down his throat, those are his decisions, and he is the one choosing not to get help.</em></p><p> </p><p>Thanks TL I never thought of it that way - that is so true! That odly enough took some weight off of my shoulders. Perhaps an alanon class would be good for me to go to....</p><p></p><p> I'm monitoring his fb page to try to see if the behavior continues - today it looks like he has added two non druggie down to earth kids ( I looked into their profile) which is a change for him- I can't write a contract because my 84 year old grandmother is overprotective - and undermines anything I say - there is no discipline there at all - if I even go over there or call him - he'll start yelling and pretend that I am "fighting" with him. And since my granparents are so elderly my mom and my grandparents then turn around and blame me for causing drama. I can't even talk to him *sigh* </p><p></p><p>I have to rely on FB message which I don't know if he reads them or not...</p><p></p><p>He already slipped up with going out and binging again after swearing he could do the outpatient thing. What I am praying and hoping is that he was so scared at the prospect of being sent involuntarily at the hospital - that he will shape up. I will have to give some very very serious thought to the commitment papers - sigh ....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Broken_Hearted, post: 540699, member: 14909"] [I]And stop blaming yourself. I know that one too... many of us do. One of the things they say in alanon is the three C's you didn't cause it, you cant cure it and you cant control it... and that is very very true. You did not pour booze or drugs down his throat, those are his decisions, and he is the one choosing not to get help.[/I] Thanks TL I never thought of it that way - that is so true! That odly enough took some weight off of my shoulders. Perhaps an alanon class would be good for me to go to.... I'm monitoring his fb page to try to see if the behavior continues - today it looks like he has added two non druggie down to earth kids ( I looked into their profile) which is a change for him- I can't write a contract because my 84 year old grandmother is overprotective - and undermines anything I say - there is no discipline there at all - if I even go over there or call him - he'll start yelling and pretend that I am "fighting" with him. And since my granparents are so elderly my mom and my grandparents then turn around and blame me for causing drama. I can't even talk to him *sigh* I have to rely on FB message which I don't know if he reads them or not... He already slipped up with going out and binging again after swearing he could do the outpatient thing. What I am praying and hoping is that he was so scared at the prospect of being sent involuntarily at the hospital - that he will shape up. I will have to give some very very serious thought to the commitment papers - sigh .... [/QUOTE]
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