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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 713977" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Can you give more details? Age? First time in jail? Nature of crime? Drugs? Violence?</p><p></p><p>For me at least it is hard to give feedback unless I have more info. 18 is different than. 40 to me. If she hurt someone its different thsn if she is in for drugs.</p><p></p><p>Either way, she is there because she broke the law. She put herself there. Of course she is sorry now. She got caught and jail restricts her from doing what she did.</p><p></p><p>I have learned not to talk too much.</p><p></p><p>"Uh huh."</p><p>"Im sure you can handle it."</p><p>"I see."</p><p>Stuff like that is all you can do. One universal rule is that we are powerless over our difficult adult offspring. If it stresses you to talk to her, tell her to only call once a week. I think the best message is to indicate that she put herself there and she can fix her life but you cant. No magic words from you will help. And never tolerate abusive words such as "This is all your fault because (fill in blanks)."</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry gor your pain.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 713977, member: 1550"] Can you give more details? Age? First time in jail? Nature of crime? Drugs? Violence? For me at least it is hard to give feedback unless I have more info. 18 is different than. 40 to me. If she hurt someone its different thsn if she is in for drugs. Either way, she is there because she broke the law. She put herself there. Of course she is sorry now. She got caught and jail restricts her from doing what she did. I have learned not to talk too much. "Uh huh." "Im sure you can handle it." "I see." Stuff like that is all you can do. One universal rule is that we are powerless over our difficult adult offspring. If it stresses you to talk to her, tell her to only call once a week. I think the best message is to indicate that she put herself there and she can fix her life but you cant. No magic words from you will help. And never tolerate abusive words such as "This is all your fault because (fill in blanks)." I am so sorry gor your pain. [/QUOTE]
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