Today once again I am feeling awful for my struggling difficult child. He had another doubleheader baseball game today and as you may remember, really struggles to keep his cool if he strikes out, doesn't like the umpires call, etc... Recently he had been benched by the coach a few innings here and there due to losing his temper by throwing his bat or helmet or just not quieting down in the dugout about what he is upset about. I have previously spoken to the coach about difficult child's disabilities/difficulties but I realize he has a team to run and consequences are part of it. Today difficult child was having a bad baseball day and struck out a few times. He was barely holding it together and I kept going over to the dugout to offer support. The game was almost over and his team had to take the field again. Next thing I know, difficult child is screaming shut up to a teammate and gives this kid a shove. The kid apparently said something again and the 2 boys started shoving and then the other kid punched difficult child in the face! The umpire threw them both out of the game and to make matters worse, the coach told difficult child he was off the team and the other kid is suspended a game. difficult child is devestated, remorseful, and just a mess crying and wishing over and over that this never happened. He loves baseball and told me it is his passion. It is just devestating to see this happen to him. And to make matters worse, it seems the other kid he got into the fight with had been teasing difficult child over the past few games if difficult child struck out, made and error, etc.. so difficult child anger had been building with this kid for a while and today he just lost it. difficult child really doesn't fight with anyone unless someone is messing with him first. I am also extremely angry with husband since he now tells me he hears this other kid teasing difficult child but figures it's what kids do and since husband feel difficult child should just "stop his behavior" that difficult child just has to ignore the teasing! My feeling is husband(who is one of the assist coaches) should have put a stop to this teasing a while ago! He has to help be an advocate for his own son! Am I wrong in this? If this other kid had not been teasing difficult child( saying HA HA, you stink), none of this would have gone wrong today. At 10 yrs old he just wants to play ball! He has so much to deal with and now this! Right now I am not sure how to help difficult child get passed this. I feel he is suffering and feeling a terrible loss right now. We were also supposed to leave in few days to go to a baseball tournament out of state(that was in the planning since winter) and now that is gone. We were going to extend it into a family vacation so now we have to rethink that! Sorry for the long post. I am just beside myself and crying just as much as difficult child! I really have no one else to lean on. I have found some neuropsychologist. in our ins. plan so I will get the process rolling. Thanks for listening.