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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 325821" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>Honestly, I don't know why you would want to stir this suff up, especially before a holiday. I can tell you from personal experience it is absolutely devistating to a child when they realize they are not/were not wanted - it has lifelong ramifications. Hey, difficult child, here is a photo of your dad - he never wanted a child, and chose to leave when you were born. I thought you would like to have it.</p><p> </p><p>Being a recipent of having to be involved in the "child support" issue/battle that my mother decided was in my best interest to KNOW at 12 or 13 years old, it was just a constant reminder of how little my father valued me, and it was the cause of some of my acting out. </p><p> </p><p>I am sooo a big believer in keeping adult matters to ones self and not forcing or discussing this kind of stuff with kids - its none of their business and it can only bring up bad feelings and negative reinforcement. </p><p> </p><p>Trust me on this, having older kids, there will come a time when he is of age or at a place to mentally handle the abandonment feelings, because that is exactly what those feelings will be. But at his age, and being incarcerated, now is not that time</p><p> </p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 325821, member: 47"] Honestly, I don't know why you would want to stir this suff up, especially before a holiday. I can tell you from personal experience it is absolutely devistating to a child when they realize they are not/were not wanted - it has lifelong ramifications. Hey, difficult child, here is a photo of your dad - he never wanted a child, and chose to leave when you were born. I thought you would like to have it. Being a recipent of having to be involved in the "child support" issue/battle that my mother decided was in my best interest to KNOW at 12 or 13 years old, it was just a constant reminder of how little my father valued me, and it was the cause of some of my acting out. I am sooo a big believer in keeping adult matters to ones self and not forcing or discussing this kind of stuff with kids - its none of their business and it can only bring up bad feelings and negative reinforcement. Trust me on this, having older kids, there will come a time when he is of age or at a place to mentally handle the abandonment feelings, because that is exactly what those feelings will be. But at his age, and being incarcerated, now is not that time Marcie [/QUOTE]
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