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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 162393"><p>BBK - </p><p></p><p>(((((hugs)))))</p><p></p><p>You have health issues that limit you. You were recently sent reeling over the thing with K. And then school let out. </p><p></p><p>You haven't had time to recover from the thing with K. I know that one really sent you reeling. And even though you have closure on that now, it takes time for you to rebound from all of that emotion.</p><p></p><p>You need a break. Can she stay with your parents or with one of your boy's moms like Star suggested? </p><p></p><p>And you need to come up with the responses like MB said. Really. It's best to be prepared in advance, otherwise we react out of emotion.</p><p></p><p>You need to be able to disengage. If she follows you from room to room screaming and crying, let her. It's soooooo hard. I would be just cringing or seething inside. But, outside I went about my business like everything was normal. It takes a lot longer for our kiddos to realize they aren't getting a reaction - they do tend to be a stubborn lot - but they eventually do.</p><p></p><p>I agree with MB and Janet. She will just get better at it as she gets older and the tactics will change. I remember at that age, if difficult child was doing this and I got up and walked past her she would cringe like I was going to hit her. OMG. That used to p!ss me off so bad. I never gave her any reason to fear me. It was just manipulation. Or maybe a little fear on her part that she went too far. I don't know for sure. But, I do know that I have never abused my child or given her any reason to be afraid of me. And for her to act that way towards me? It cut to the core. I know what it's like to live in fear of a parent. It crushed me when she did that. But, I walked away and didn't say a word. I probably locked myself in my room and cried. I don't remember, but it's making me cry now just thinking of it.</p><p></p><p>If you can't disengage alone, call someone when she's doing this. Call your mom. Call a friend. Heck, call me. I'll give you my number and I'm always home. And I don't mind listening to a kid interrupting and screaming in the background and mom crying and venting and...you get the idea. Cause I know what it's like.</p><p></p><p>On your other thread, Linda had some really good ideas. With Wynter, I knew she was capable of entertaining herself because she did it often. I don't know if Tink does or doesn't, so I don't know if she's not capable or just wants to be entertained.</p><p></p><p>(((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 162393"] BBK - (((((hugs))))) You have health issues that limit you. You were recently sent reeling over the thing with K. And then school let out. You haven't had time to recover from the thing with K. I know that one really sent you reeling. And even though you have closure on that now, it takes time for you to rebound from all of that emotion. You need a break. Can she stay with your parents or with one of your boy's moms like Star suggested? And you need to come up with the responses like MB said. Really. It's best to be prepared in advance, otherwise we react out of emotion. You need to be able to disengage. If she follows you from room to room screaming and crying, let her. It's soooooo hard. I would be just cringing or seething inside. But, outside I went about my business like everything was normal. It takes a lot longer for our kiddos to realize they aren't getting a reaction - they do tend to be a stubborn lot - but they eventually do. I agree with MB and Janet. She will just get better at it as she gets older and the tactics will change. I remember at that age, if difficult child was doing this and I got up and walked past her she would cringe like I was going to hit her. OMG. That used to p!ss me off so bad. I never gave her any reason to fear me. It was just manipulation. Or maybe a little fear on her part that she went too far. I don't know for sure. But, I do know that I have never abused my child or given her any reason to be afraid of me. And for her to act that way towards me? It cut to the core. I know what it's like to live in fear of a parent. It crushed me when she did that. But, I walked away and didn't say a word. I probably locked myself in my room and cried. I don't remember, but it's making me cry now just thinking of it. If you can't disengage alone, call someone when she's doing this. Call your mom. Call a friend. Heck, call me. I'll give you my number and I'm always home. And I don't mind listening to a kid interrupting and screaming in the background and mom crying and venting and...you get the idea. Cause I know what it's like. On your other thread, Linda had some really good ideas. With Wynter, I knew she was capable of entertaining herself because she did it often. I don't know if Tink does or doesn't, so I don't know if she's not capable or just wants to be entertained. (((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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