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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 403676" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>WOW! I am so sorry. That had to hurt more than almost anything anyone could ever say to you. If his grandmother is filling his head with this then she needs to be out of his life, but refusing to let him visit her may cause even more problems. I know Wiz would have decided that I was trying to cover up soemthing rather than to shield him from a huge pack of lies. </p><p> </p><p>Therapy is a MUST. Also, was there an investigation? could you get the officer who investigated to speak to him, to answer his questions and show that it was NOT your fault and was NOT murder? I don't know if logic would help or not, but it might be worth trying. </p><p> </p><p>Could your son somehow feel that his father's death was his fault? That if he had been a better son, athlete, student, quieter, noisier, more involved with his dad, less demanding of his dad, etc... then his dad would still be alive? It is pretty natural for kids to feel like this when a parent dies, or so I have been told. This may feel so terrible that he is latching on to another person to blame, and the poison from his grandparents is just the excuse he needs.</p><p> </p><p>Whatever it is, I am SO SORRY. What he said was SO out of line and so unacceptable that I don't know how you didn't beat him. If he TRULY thought you were a murderer he would be a LOT less likely to be disrespectful or cause problems because he wouldn't feel safe around you if you got angry or upset. So I don't think he truly believes it, it is just somehow easier to try to believe than to deal with the truth. He also knows you will always love him no matter what he does</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 403676, member: 1233"] WOW! I am so sorry. That had to hurt more than almost anything anyone could ever say to you. If his grandmother is filling his head with this then she needs to be out of his life, but refusing to let him visit her may cause even more problems. I know Wiz would have decided that I was trying to cover up soemthing rather than to shield him from a huge pack of lies. Therapy is a MUST. Also, was there an investigation? could you get the officer who investigated to speak to him, to answer his questions and show that it was NOT your fault and was NOT murder? I don't know if logic would help or not, but it might be worth trying. Could your son somehow feel that his father's death was his fault? That if he had been a better son, athlete, student, quieter, noisier, more involved with his dad, less demanding of his dad, etc... then his dad would still be alive? It is pretty natural for kids to feel like this when a parent dies, or so I have been told. This may feel so terrible that he is latching on to another person to blame, and the poison from his grandparents is just the excuse he needs. Whatever it is, I am SO SORRY. What he said was SO out of line and so unacceptable that I don't know how you didn't beat him. If he TRULY thought you were a murderer he would be a LOT less likely to be disrespectful or cause problems because he wouldn't feel safe around you if you got angry or upset. So I don't think he truly believes it, it is just somehow easier to try to believe than to deal with the truth. He also knows you will always love him no matter what he does [/QUOTE]
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