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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 439253" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Another "wow" from here. I'm so sorry the kids are missing out on a birthday party they'd been anticipating. How bass ackwards to buy such pricey gifts (is it true do you think?) and not reserve a few bucks for inexpensive cups and plates, etc. I do understand being cramped financially and every single dollar counting. I would have thought a person finally out of a shelter system might show some shred of appreciation for all the help she and her children have recieved (from agencies, shelters, you and your husband, siblings, bio mom etc) to at least pay the bills and then be uber cautious with every penny coming in especially because it seems neither her or her s/o seem to have any history of working for the money that IS coming in to feed those kids. Argh! I've had really broke periods (in one right now to be honest). I've had bigger parties for my kids in better years, frugal ones in others. Even the frugal ones were a hit and my kids never seem to point out the better financed parties over the frugal ones. Even to keep it low cost if she'd had no food but cake and juice she'd have easily been able to back a cake and frost it for $2 (dollar store), $3 for pack of plates, forks and cups, $2-3 for canned frozen juice, $1 for balloons, perhaps $2-3 dollars for a birthday banner and a toy party favor for the kids (our dollar stores here at least have party favors 6 to a pack). Beyond that, a inexpensive gift from mom/dad that is geared to the kids interest and some guests to play free games with. Would have been cheaper, gifts included, than the big gifts they got but at the sacrifice of a party I bet they'd have enjoyed. </p><p></p><p>Don't blame you on the bio mom front either. I wouldn't take in a 63 year old difficult child, no matter how much your daughter might have taken advantage until the money ran out of bio moms pockets. It isn't your problem, although I do feel badly for a woman to be used so badly and tossed aside. But again, not your problem. didn't create it, can't fix it, shouldn't be expected to.</p><p></p><p>I too think regardless of sending K a message about respect in giving you dates etc, I'd probably drive the kidlet to camp. I'm sure he'll have fun, good balanced meals, healthy uplifting input from adults, healthy interactions with kids, not to mention a good memory from a summer camp. Sadly these kiddos sound to have few really normal childhood memories. </p><p></p><p>I wonder what K and her other half are going to do when the kids are grown and no more benefits or services or funds come their way due to having the kids. If your welfare system is at all like ours, you can't make it into a lifestyle, it won't happen. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there. I'm also impressed once again at your resolve. Detachment should be printed under your picture. Good job!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 439253, member: 4264"] Another "wow" from here. I'm so sorry the kids are missing out on a birthday party they'd been anticipating. How bass ackwards to buy such pricey gifts (is it true do you think?) and not reserve a few bucks for inexpensive cups and plates, etc. I do understand being cramped financially and every single dollar counting. I would have thought a person finally out of a shelter system might show some shred of appreciation for all the help she and her children have recieved (from agencies, shelters, you and your husband, siblings, bio mom etc) to at least pay the bills and then be uber cautious with every penny coming in especially because it seems neither her or her s/o seem to have any history of working for the money that IS coming in to feed those kids. Argh! I've had really broke periods (in one right now to be honest). I've had bigger parties for my kids in better years, frugal ones in others. Even the frugal ones were a hit and my kids never seem to point out the better financed parties over the frugal ones. Even to keep it low cost if she'd had no food but cake and juice she'd have easily been able to back a cake and frost it for $2 (dollar store), $3 for pack of plates, forks and cups, $2-3 for canned frozen juice, $1 for balloons, perhaps $2-3 dollars for a birthday banner and a toy party favor for the kids (our dollar stores here at least have party favors 6 to a pack). Beyond that, a inexpensive gift from mom/dad that is geared to the kids interest and some guests to play free games with. Would have been cheaper, gifts included, than the big gifts they got but at the sacrifice of a party I bet they'd have enjoyed. Don't blame you on the bio mom front either. I wouldn't take in a 63 year old difficult child, no matter how much your daughter might have taken advantage until the money ran out of bio moms pockets. It isn't your problem, although I do feel badly for a woman to be used so badly and tossed aside. But again, not your problem. didn't create it, can't fix it, shouldn't be expected to. I too think regardless of sending K a message about respect in giving you dates etc, I'd probably drive the kidlet to camp. I'm sure he'll have fun, good balanced meals, healthy uplifting input from adults, healthy interactions with kids, not to mention a good memory from a summer camp. Sadly these kiddos sound to have few really normal childhood memories. I wonder what K and her other half are going to do when the kids are grown and no more benefits or services or funds come their way due to having the kids. If your welfare system is at all like ours, you can't make it into a lifestyle, it won't happen. Hang in there. I'm also impressed once again at your resolve. Detachment should be printed under your picture. Good job! [/QUOTE]
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