I attended difficult child 2's wrap around meeting Wednesday. It was my first meeting. They've had 3 or 4 previous. They are every Wednesday at difficult child 2's home. I really like the idea of wrap around services. The more support difficult child 2 gets the better. And even if he doesn't get much out of the program, at least he will feel like there are people rooting for him, Know what I mean?? But.... The entire 2 hours was spent arguing over semantics. We needed to come up with goals for difficult child 2, which really confused his mom because they had already come up with a main goal. Apparently *that* goal doesn't go in the report and they have to come up with mini goals for home, community and school. Except that the goal that we came up with was the same thing as the main goal. Then we'd suggest things like "difficult child 2 should talk to someone he feels comfortable with about how he's feeling, what he's struggling with, etc." Just to be told that that is not a goal; it's an objective. Huh? Apparently the goal is to decrease impulsive behavior. (Side note: we had to have a discussion about THAT because the guy leading the thing was under the impression that we only needed to worry about destructive impulsivity. That's like telling an alcoholic that he can have one drink a day. He told us we were looking too far down the road. Well, yeah.) Anyway, we thought another goal would be what I mentioned about talking to someone, etc. But, no, that's an objective under the goal of decreasing impulsive behavior. Which is stupid because difficult child 2 has never been in the habit of talking to *anyone* about these things and, therefore, it's a goal. This went on and on about everything we mentioned. They can call it whatever they want. It's stuff that needs to be worked on. Why in the world did they have to spend 2 hours arguing over goals vs objectives, making it impossible to come up with something that fit into his box. And when difficult child 2 isn't in the habit of practicing the objectives needed to reach the goal, doesn't that then make them all goals? And who the heck cares anyway??? This is just stuff that difficult child 2 needs support with. Call it whatever you want. But, they have to put it in their report this way, so it has to be just so. Ugh. Can't see the forest for the trees. Wouldn't it just be simpler to brainstorm ways to help difficult child 2, ways for difficult child 2 to help himself, and come up with a plan to support that? Instead of saying, oh no, we can't write that down because it's an objective. Am I missing something here? Cause I was just really confused.