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<blockquote data-quote="PassedExhausted" data-source="post: 477493"><p>Hi everyone,</p><p></p><p>Thanks for all the support. I'd like to clarify a few things. I realize the terminology is different in different places, I'm sorry for the confusion. In my state, if the child will not go to school or is disruptive at school and refuses to do work and creates unsafe situations for himself or others...the school will call the state who steps in to start group home proceedings. The big, major difference between a group home and an Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is that since an Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is under OMH they will not use therapeautic restraints unless it is an extreme circumstance where the child is at risk. Group homes and behavioral programs that are under the state arm have no such guidelines.</p><p></p><p>I understand that I can't expect miracles from any programs no matter the length of time. I also understand that he will always be Aspie. However, there are things that are within his control if he had the capability to prioritize the messages from his "thinking brain" rather than his "feeling brain." Whereas, in patient hospitalization has the main goal of stabilizing them to go home and a group home's goal is to show a cause and effect of behavior, an Residential Treatment Facility (RTF)'s main goal is to help them cope and function in the world. If I could think of any other possibility for help....I would grab it. Unfortunately, he has burned through so many options. In my area we fall into a region that would put my son at best 2 1/2 hours away from me for anywhere from 6 months to a year and at worst 3 1/2 hours away. This is not optimal. I'm very much a hands-on mom and he does not grasp that this kills me inside when I smile and tell him that this could be a great opportunity. He knows he needs more help than his school, his counselor, MST, SPOA, WAIVER, and I have been able to give him. I'm proud that although it hurts and scares him to think about going away for so long, he recognizes the need to try....this tells me that although he verbally tells me in anguish that, "It's always going to be the same, I'll never get better, nothing works," somewhere inside, he's still hopeful.</p><p></p><p>Again, thanks for all your concern, kind words, support, and most of all...allowing me to get this all out. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PassedExhausted, post: 477493"] Hi everyone, Thanks for all the support. I'd like to clarify a few things. I realize the terminology is different in different places, I'm sorry for the confusion. In my state, if the child will not go to school or is disruptive at school and refuses to do work and creates unsafe situations for himself or others...the school will call the state who steps in to start group home proceedings. The big, major difference between a group home and an Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is that since an Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is under OMH they will not use therapeautic restraints unless it is an extreme circumstance where the child is at risk. Group homes and behavioral programs that are under the state arm have no such guidelines. I understand that I can't expect miracles from any programs no matter the length of time. I also understand that he will always be Aspie. However, there are things that are within his control if he had the capability to prioritize the messages from his "thinking brain" rather than his "feeling brain." Whereas, in patient hospitalization has the main goal of stabilizing them to go home and a group home's goal is to show a cause and effect of behavior, an Residential Treatment Facility (RTF)'s main goal is to help them cope and function in the world. If I could think of any other possibility for help....I would grab it. Unfortunately, he has burned through so many options. In my area we fall into a region that would put my son at best 2 1/2 hours away from me for anywhere from 6 months to a year and at worst 3 1/2 hours away. This is not optimal. I'm very much a hands-on mom and he does not grasp that this kills me inside when I smile and tell him that this could be a great opportunity. He knows he needs more help than his school, his counselor, MST, SPOA, WAIVER, and I have been able to give him. I'm proud that although it hurts and scares him to think about going away for so long, he recognizes the need to try....this tells me that although he verbally tells me in anguish that, "It's always going to be the same, I'll never get better, nothing works," somewhere inside, he's still hopeful. Again, thanks for all your concern, kind words, support, and most of all...allowing me to get this all out. :) [/QUOTE]
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