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WTF? difficult child's sponsor begins to seem really shady
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 610972" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Your son is 20, not a kid. I know little about GA as in my neck of the woods it is not much around here. But your son is not BUYING this person's advice so I wouldn't even give it the time of day. Your son is going to hear a lot of things in his life that you won't like and it is up to him to make decisions about what he hears. In this case, he called the man a whacko so I don't see how interfering can help your son grow and mature. He made a good decision to ignore his words. </p><p></p><p>Just because this man says he is your son's sponsor doesn't mean your son has to accept him as a sponsor. He doesn't have to think the person has helpful advice and he clearly DOES NOT think so. If it were me, I'd let him do this himself. I think in my opinion your son is too old to have dad and mom contact his coaches and complain. That's for younger kids. You son in my opinion needs to handle it.by the way, your son does not sound distressed, only amused.</p><p></p><p>Your son is making lots of progress. I really don't even see him as a difficult child. He may be grumpy at times, but he is making good choices and, if he was ever a big problem, he is doing well now. I think it is good to show your trust in him. He is clearly disregarding the advice and contacint you so I don't even see this as an issue. It is an annoyance he has to figure out how to get out of, maybe by telling the guy he doesn't want him as a sponsor. </p><p></p><p>If my grown kids were told to turn away from their support systems by some guy who thinks he is a psychologist (but isn't), they'd laugh and ignore it. Seems like your son is doing the same thing. Your son is going to hear many things you don't agree with in his life. You can't go after everyone who says these things. You must trust that he has matured and will make good decisions and recognize craziness when it surfaces, as he did. Vulnerable or not, he is clearly clear-headed enough to know helpful advice from nonsense.</p><p></p><p>Your son knows he has good parents and wants you in his life. Nobody can stop that.</p><p></p><p>If somebody told this to my minor children, I'd be livid. If somebody says nonsense to my adult kids, I trust them to put it on disregard. If he solves this himself, he will grow up even further and he is doing SUCH a good job on his own of progressing in the maturity department.</p><p></p><p>JMO!!!!! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Good luck, whatever you decide to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 610972, member: 1550"] Your son is 20, not a kid. I know little about GA as in my neck of the woods it is not much around here. But your son is not BUYING this person's advice so I wouldn't even give it the time of day. Your son is going to hear a lot of things in his life that you won't like and it is up to him to make decisions about what he hears. In this case, he called the man a whacko so I don't see how interfering can help your son grow and mature. He made a good decision to ignore his words. Just because this man says he is your son's sponsor doesn't mean your son has to accept him as a sponsor. He doesn't have to think the person has helpful advice and he clearly DOES NOT think so. If it were me, I'd let him do this himself. I think in my opinion your son is too old to have dad and mom contact his coaches and complain. That's for younger kids. You son in my opinion needs to handle it.by the way, your son does not sound distressed, only amused. Your son is making lots of progress. I really don't even see him as a difficult child. He may be grumpy at times, but he is making good choices and, if he was ever a big problem, he is doing well now. I think it is good to show your trust in him. He is clearly disregarding the advice and contacint you so I don't even see this as an issue. It is an annoyance he has to figure out how to get out of, maybe by telling the guy he doesn't want him as a sponsor. If my grown kids were told to turn away from their support systems by some guy who thinks he is a psychologist (but isn't), they'd laugh and ignore it. Seems like your son is doing the same thing. Your son is going to hear many things you don't agree with in his life. You can't go after everyone who says these things. You must trust that he has matured and will make good decisions and recognize craziness when it surfaces, as he did. Vulnerable or not, he is clearly clear-headed enough to know helpful advice from nonsense. Your son knows he has good parents and wants you in his life. Nobody can stop that. If somebody told this to my minor children, I'd be livid. If somebody says nonsense to my adult kids, I trust them to put it on disregard. If he solves this himself, he will grow up even further and he is doing SUCH a good job on his own of progressing in the maturity department. JMO!!!!! :) Good luck, whatever you decide to do. [/QUOTE]
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