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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 738126" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If you feel you have to buy him a bed for your piece of mind, buy a futon. They are cheap and the chances of him leaving it behind are huge. It is unlikely that he is going to stay in one place no matter how much you spend on him. In the throes of addiction, they move around, get kicked out, change where they want to be and have no stability of alliances. Visiting him is probably a stressful waste for both of you. If throwing nice things and money at them could cure them, we would be poor but our kids would be thriving. The fact is, our money, kindness and nurturing does not help our addicted young people. It kills us, but doesnt change them one wit. They change when they want to change. We cant force it.</p><p></p><p>Some parents have successfully put their feet down and have gotten their mostly very young adults to go to rehab and two are doing very well right now. But not everyone can talk their kids into rehab and there are zero guarantees that it will work this time or that they wont walk out or relapse. These two mothers had sons who obviously were ready to at least stick it out. But their adult kids were still at home, albeit on shaky ground.</p><p></p><p>You have to think of yourself too. You have to know that you cant fix him. Please think of your own well being.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 738126, member: 1550"] If you feel you have to buy him a bed for your piece of mind, buy a futon. They are cheap and the chances of him leaving it behind are huge. It is unlikely that he is going to stay in one place no matter how much you spend on him. In the throes of addiction, they move around, get kicked out, change where they want to be and have no stability of alliances. Visiting him is probably a stressful waste for both of you. If throwing nice things and money at them could cure them, we would be poor but our kids would be thriving. The fact is, our money, kindness and nurturing does not help our addicted young people. It kills us, but doesnt change them one wit. They change when they want to change. We cant force it. Some parents have successfully put their feet down and have gotten their mostly very young adults to go to rehab and two are doing very well right now. But not everyone can talk their kids into rehab and there are zero guarantees that it will work this time or that they wont walk out or relapse. These two mothers had sons who obviously were ready to at least stick it out. But their adult kids were still at home, albeit on shaky ground. You have to think of yourself too. You have to know that you cant fix him. Please think of your own well being. [/QUOTE]
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