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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 671110" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Sea Genie,</p><p></p><p>I think I could have written that "you deserve to live in peace" to you as well. And it is true. It is not easy, finding this peace. You have suffered much loss, and your son is your only family. That is very tough. I am so sorry for what you are going through.</p><p></p><p>By having your son leave your house, you have achieved the peace of securing your home. Peace at home is very important. In the throes of the drama of living with an adult D c, our homes become a place of turmoil. Then, we are left with no other choice but to have our D c's leave.</p><p></p><p>Now comes the work at hand to bring to yourself peace of mind and heart.</p><p>It is no easy task, for our hearts yearn to know how our children are faring, and that they are okay.</p><p>SeaGenie, do you have a faith, a higher power? I have learned to give my two to G-D. The Serenity Prayer is very calming and helpful when I begin to worry or awfulize about what may be happening.</p><p><img src="http://ak1.ostkcdn.com/images/products/6286944/Vinyl-Attraction-Serenity-Prayer-Vinyl-Wall-Art-P13919843.jpg" alt="" class="fr-fic fr-dii fr-draggable " style="" /> </p><p></p><p>Going for walks, swimming, any kind of exercise helps lift our spirits. The key is to try to refocus the energy we spend thinking of our D c's to something more positive. </p><p>This peace is not automatic, it takes work. It takes understanding and embracing our own value and self worth.</p><p></p><p> </p><p>You have described your sons dabbling with drugs in prior posts. All of what you write, is addictive behavior. We have no control over our adult children. It is gut wrenching, and hurtful to see our children acting this way. </p><p>It does not mean that this will be forever. There are many stories of folks changing their paths. </p><p></p><p>One thing I do know, is that change is not likely to happen when they are in our homes.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Knowing that my D c's will not change when they are under my roof is the first step.</p><p>Realizing that they use my love for them against me, is the next.</p><p>Giving them over to G-d, and praying for them when my thoughts turn their way has helped me tremendously.</p><p>I have found too, the less I know, and think about, the better.</p><p> Keeping myself busy helps.</p><p>Most of all, prayer helps.</p><p></p><p>I hope SeaGenie, that you are able to find some comfort </p><p>and work towards your peace.</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p></p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 671110, member: 19522"] Hi Sea Genie, I think I could have written that "you deserve to live in peace" to you as well. And it is true. It is not easy, finding this peace. You have suffered much loss, and your son is your only family. That is very tough. I am so sorry for what you are going through. By having your son leave your house, you have achieved the peace of securing your home. Peace at home is very important. In the throes of the drama of living with an adult D c, our homes become a place of turmoil. Then, we are left with no other choice but to have our D c's leave. Now comes the work at hand to bring to yourself peace of mind and heart. It is no easy task, for our hearts yearn to know how our children are faring, and that they are okay. SeaGenie, do you have a faith, a higher power? I have learned to give my two to G-D. The Serenity Prayer is very calming and helpful when I begin to worry or awfulize about what may be happening. [IMG]http://ak1.ostkcdn.com/images/products/6286944/Vinyl-Attraction-Serenity-Prayer-Vinyl-Wall-Art-P13919843.jpg[/IMG] Going for walks, swimming, any kind of exercise helps lift our spirits. The key is to try to refocus the energy we spend thinking of our D c's to something more positive. This peace is not automatic, it takes work. It takes understanding and embracing our own value and self worth. You have described your sons dabbling with drugs in prior posts. All of what you write, is addictive behavior. We have no control over our adult children. It is gut wrenching, and hurtful to see our children acting this way. It does not mean that this will be forever. There are many stories of folks changing their paths. One thing I do know, is that change is not likely to happen when they are in our homes. Knowing that my D c's will not change when they are under my roof is the first step. Realizing that they use my love for them against me, is the next. Giving them over to G-d, and praying for them when my thoughts turn their way has helped me tremendously. I have found too, the less I know, and think about, the better. Keeping myself busy helps. Most of all, prayer helps. I hope SeaGenie, that you are able to find some comfort and work towards your peace. (((HUGS))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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