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You know the saying 'pick your battles'...
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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 372451" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Good advice here.</p><p></p><p>I would add - collaborative problem solving depends on understanding your son's concerns, what's getting in his way. So if we take a step back - like a dance , you step back - your partner steps forward , and say to the kid , I am not telling you to wear underspants, I am not forcing you to wear underpants I just want to know why you are not so keen on underwear. Your kid may not know to say it in words so it is good to have quite a few tentative suggestions to help him out and drill down to reveal his concerns. Once we have his concerns on the table , we can share our concerns and follow through the cps process.</p><p></p><p>In the mean time , if clothes you buy cover him , we can rely on this creativity on our part. If the lack of underwear becomes an issue at school or with friends and not one between you and him , there may be a possibility that he will be able to appreciate others concerns more easily.</p><p></p><p>I don't like the phrase - choosing battles - yes to prioritizing issues and solve problems in a way that the kid feels he is being heard and understood</p><p></p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 372451, member: 10"] Good advice here. I would add - collaborative problem solving depends on understanding your son's concerns, what's getting in his way. So if we take a step back - like a dance , you step back - your partner steps forward , and say to the kid , I am not telling you to wear underspants, I am not forcing you to wear underpants I just want to know why you are not so keen on underwear. Your kid may not know to say it in words so it is good to have quite a few tentative suggestions to help him out and drill down to reveal his concerns. Once we have his concerns on the table , we can share our concerns and follow through the cps process. In the mean time , if clothes you buy cover him , we can rely on this creativity on our part. If the lack of underwear becomes an issue at school or with friends and not one between you and him , there may be a possibility that he will be able to appreciate others concerns more easily. I don't like the phrase - choosing battles - yes to prioritizing issues and solve problems in a way that the kid feels he is being heard and understood Allan [/QUOTE]
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