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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 384254" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I know it could still be difficult child "honeymoon" phase, but I must admit katie and her husband's determination and attitude have been impressive. </p><p></p><p>Katie spent most of yesterday on the phone calling shelters in several counties including dayton and cincy, ect. Today she also spent on the phone again calling shelters, calling every church in the phone book, setting up a WIC appointment for Evan, Early Intervention was a no go he's too old it stops at 3 but health dept told Katie another way to get one. </p><p></p><p>Took them out to welfare. Well there was 2 hitches, Katie brought all birth certificates except one for Evan and one for her husband. She's never had a birth certificate for Evan.....Mo just varifies via the health dept. Second hitch was that they had to close out their welfare in Mo. Katie's husband had already cancelled the food stamp card, but they still needed to cancel the insurance before Oh will pick them up. Once Mo is closed out Kayla and Alex will have insurance immediately as since Katie had their birth certificates. But the cw tried to tell katie that the copy of her birth certificate was just a photo copy which is major BS because I paid for that copy, it's certified and signed!! grr</p><p></p><p>They were planning to wait for the birth certificates.......but the violence around and in the shelter was increasing and since they no longer had money coming in shelter staff kept threatening to move them out so they could bring new people in. If that had happened they'd have been homeless with absolutely no one to help them.</p><p></p><p>Good news to these hitches.........Evidently ohio will not make them wait for services once they have the birth certificates and the Mo closed out. Bad news : if welfare refuses to accept katie's birth certificate copy we have to send off for hers too and last time it took 3 wks!</p><p></p><p>That cut our outing short today because I wanted them to get back here and call Mo and get that acct closed out. Guess what? Their cw is on vacation this week. So instead of giving up, katie kept calling his supervisor..........she never got to speak with them but she's trying again tomorrow. She plans to call them to death until they talk to her just to get her to leave them alone. lol </p><p></p><p>Because katie was persistant with shelters......(recalling ones she called yesterday) she found out a spot is opening up in the wilmington shelter in a few days. Sounds as if they are going to hold it for them. Woman told katie to call her every day in case a spot opens sooner. The kids are out of money, spending the last of it tonite on the motel.......with husband and I chipping in 10 bucks simply because it would be better than attempting to bed them down here. And frankly while the grands were trying hard to be good..........Alex and Evan are both difficult children......and they wear us out. lol</p><p></p><p>She is still playing phone tag with one pastor who told her he was fairly sure he could help with motel cost until they could get into a shelter. </p><p></p><p>This morning before calling us to tell us they were up so they could come eat breakfast and start all this again, katies husband was busy calling places trying to see who was hiring while katie was getting the kids ready for when husband picked them up.</p><p></p><p>Tomorrow we go to community action. We go to turning point to see if they have a spot for Katie's husband. He can work there while also learning to read and get his GED.....once he graduates from this program they will find him work. Most likely the factory where Nichole worked that pays 10.00 an hr and is always in need of help. (huge turnover rate) Her husband asked if I'd take them a few places to put in applications too. We'll be stopping at the college to see when winter registration is so katie can register and to ask them about the nurse aide program.</p><p></p><p>During all this husband and Travis will be watching the kids again as it's easier on me to do the running part. lol </p><p></p><p>Oh, and Katie already did the phone interview today for our shelter. She should have the in person interview soon. They have no openings yet but I told her getting those 2 things out of the way will one show them that they are serious and 2 should bump them up for a spot. It did, they are top of the list for next available spot.</p><p></p><p>Since at this point we don't know if it will be wilmington or here where they'll wind up..........we're holding off enrolling Kayla and Alex until next week. No since in going thru the process only to have them wind up in both another town and county.</p><p></p><p>easy child brought up a valid point. If they're in wilmington it will be harder for us to help, She suggested they stay in that shelter until their spot in the one down here opens and then come back here. And it just hit me that if they go to wilmington then it will be pure hades to get Katie's husband to turning point. ugghhhh I have no clue if they have such a program up there so I think I'll have katie call and ask.</p><p></p><p>They have not asked for a single thing.....except use of the phone and help getting where they need to go and ideas of other places to call for help. Their appreciation for me feeding them is genuine. Just now hit me that I prepared breakfast for the kids and didn't even think to offer it to the adults (we don't eat breakfast around here) and during lunch I had them running......same for yesterday. But both nights I made big filling meals. Tonight's menu was po' man's food : fried potatoes n onions, mac and cheese, and sweet rice.....they couldn't get enough. Not one complaint......kids were told not to waste a bite of food.</p><p></p><p>I overheard Katie and her husband whispering about money for the motel while I was cooking. They only had 36.00 left. (the night before leaving the shelter some of their money came up missing and katie had to go ask a priest to help cover ticket cost to make up for the stolen money so they would still have some for the motel) I didn't say a word. And honestly the kids were loud enough I'm sure they didn't think I heard them because I was busy cooking and pretending I was oblivious. When I went to tell husband supper was ready I told him what I'd overheard. </p><p></p><p>They had not asked us for money, they were trying to figure out what they were going to do for a place to sleep. I told husband (and I know for sure they didn't overhear) that it was 10 bucks to help them cover the motel or they'd be bedding down in the dining room as the family room still has stuff Nichole has to move to dayton this weekend. husband gave me the money, I walked back in and gave it to katie and told her she had another night covered. She nearly fell out of the chair. And her husband started asking me what he could do to help around here. So I told him he can help husband make a new gate for the back yard fence. lol And I meant it. Her husband said he'd be glad to. </p><p></p><p>We've talked a lot in the past 2 days. Katie's husband is/was a full blown difficult child.......like I didn't already know. lol In his teen years he got involved in street gangs in tx.....got out of that life a couple of years before katie. He said the shelter opened his eyes to the fact the only way he would ever be able to make a decent living to support his family was to learn to read and get his GED or he'd be forever stuck in nowhere jobs that paid nothing. Which would have them always on the brink of living on the streets. After these past months in the shelter........that thought scared them both. Mo doesn't have most of the programs we have here. We have them because we're considered Appalachian. He seemed very sincere. As does katie.</p><p></p><p>I'm thinking the being homeless, coupled with being able to see the lives her sibs were making for themselves via facebook......had a positive effect. I mean c'mon.....even Travis with all his disabilities is attending college.</p><p></p><p>I don't know what we'll do tomorrow nite. husband and I can't afford to give them 46 bucks for the motel. I'm praying hard katie can connect with that pastor and he'll help them with that. The kids are even willing to do odd jobs for the churches or attend services in return for any help. (something they'd never even consider before)</p><p></p><p>Their effort has in my opinion earned them the right to sleep on the floor for a few days if we're given no other choice. But it will be hard as currently the only room in the house with room is my diningroom.....because the family room still has nichole's things in it and still needs to be cleaned up. And if we do that I've got to figure out what I'm going to do with Betsy who doesn't like strangers and will bark at them all night long. husband has suggested moving her crate up to our room.....not sure how that would work out.</p><p></p><p>There is more about katie's biomom........but it's 3am and I have to get up early and start all over again. And the pain medications have finally kicked in. So I'll have to fill you all in on that later.</p><p></p><p>But yeah, so far other than the crappy economy and the birth certificate hitches........it's going well. Which reminds me........I have no clue where we'll get 30 bucks for 3 birth certificates. d*mn</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 384254, member: 84"] I know it could still be difficult child "honeymoon" phase, but I must admit katie and her husband's determination and attitude have been impressive. Katie spent most of yesterday on the phone calling shelters in several counties including dayton and cincy, ect. Today she also spent on the phone again calling shelters, calling every church in the phone book, setting up a WIC appointment for Evan, Early Intervention was a no go he's too old it stops at 3 but health dept told Katie another way to get one. Took them out to welfare. Well there was 2 hitches, Katie brought all birth certificates except one for Evan and one for her husband. She's never had a birth certificate for Evan.....Mo just varifies via the health dept. Second hitch was that they had to close out their welfare in Mo. Katie's husband had already cancelled the food stamp card, but they still needed to cancel the insurance before Oh will pick them up. Once Mo is closed out Kayla and Alex will have insurance immediately as since Katie had their birth certificates. But the cw tried to tell katie that the copy of her birth certificate was just a photo copy which is major BS because I paid for that copy, it's certified and signed!! grr They were planning to wait for the birth certificates.......but the violence around and in the shelter was increasing and since they no longer had money coming in shelter staff kept threatening to move them out so they could bring new people in. If that had happened they'd have been homeless with absolutely no one to help them. Good news to these hitches.........Evidently ohio will not make them wait for services once they have the birth certificates and the Mo closed out. Bad news : if welfare refuses to accept katie's birth certificate copy we have to send off for hers too and last time it took 3 wks! That cut our outing short today because I wanted them to get back here and call Mo and get that acct closed out. Guess what? Their cw is on vacation this week. So instead of giving up, katie kept calling his supervisor..........she never got to speak with them but she's trying again tomorrow. She plans to call them to death until they talk to her just to get her to leave them alone. lol Because katie was persistant with shelters......(recalling ones she called yesterday) she found out a spot is opening up in the wilmington shelter in a few days. Sounds as if they are going to hold it for them. Woman told katie to call her every day in case a spot opens sooner. The kids are out of money, spending the last of it tonite on the motel.......with husband and I chipping in 10 bucks simply because it would be better than attempting to bed them down here. And frankly while the grands were trying hard to be good..........Alex and Evan are both difficult children......and they wear us out. lol She is still playing phone tag with one pastor who told her he was fairly sure he could help with motel cost until they could get into a shelter. This morning before calling us to tell us they were up so they could come eat breakfast and start all this again, katies husband was busy calling places trying to see who was hiring while katie was getting the kids ready for when husband picked them up. Tomorrow we go to community action. We go to turning point to see if they have a spot for Katie's husband. He can work there while also learning to read and get his GED.....once he graduates from this program they will find him work. Most likely the factory where Nichole worked that pays 10.00 an hr and is always in need of help. (huge turnover rate) Her husband asked if I'd take them a few places to put in applications too. We'll be stopping at the college to see when winter registration is so katie can register and to ask them about the nurse aide program. During all this husband and Travis will be watching the kids again as it's easier on me to do the running part. lol Oh, and Katie already did the phone interview today for our shelter. She should have the in person interview soon. They have no openings yet but I told her getting those 2 things out of the way will one show them that they are serious and 2 should bump them up for a spot. It did, they are top of the list for next available spot. Since at this point we don't know if it will be wilmington or here where they'll wind up..........we're holding off enrolling Kayla and Alex until next week. No since in going thru the process only to have them wind up in both another town and county. easy child brought up a valid point. If they're in wilmington it will be harder for us to help, She suggested they stay in that shelter until their spot in the one down here opens and then come back here. And it just hit me that if they go to wilmington then it will be pure hades to get Katie's husband to turning point. ugghhhh I have no clue if they have such a program up there so I think I'll have katie call and ask. They have not asked for a single thing.....except use of the phone and help getting where they need to go and ideas of other places to call for help. Their appreciation for me feeding them is genuine. Just now hit me that I prepared breakfast for the kids and didn't even think to offer it to the adults (we don't eat breakfast around here) and during lunch I had them running......same for yesterday. But both nights I made big filling meals. Tonight's menu was po' man's food : fried potatoes n onions, mac and cheese, and sweet rice.....they couldn't get enough. Not one complaint......kids were told not to waste a bite of food. I overheard Katie and her husband whispering about money for the motel while I was cooking. They only had 36.00 left. (the night before leaving the shelter some of their money came up missing and katie had to go ask a priest to help cover ticket cost to make up for the stolen money so they would still have some for the motel) I didn't say a word. And honestly the kids were loud enough I'm sure they didn't think I heard them because I was busy cooking and pretending I was oblivious. When I went to tell husband supper was ready I told him what I'd overheard. They had not asked us for money, they were trying to figure out what they were going to do for a place to sleep. I told husband (and I know for sure they didn't overhear) that it was 10 bucks to help them cover the motel or they'd be bedding down in the dining room as the family room still has stuff Nichole has to move to dayton this weekend. husband gave me the money, I walked back in and gave it to katie and told her she had another night covered. She nearly fell out of the chair. And her husband started asking me what he could do to help around here. So I told him he can help husband make a new gate for the back yard fence. lol And I meant it. Her husband said he'd be glad to. We've talked a lot in the past 2 days. Katie's husband is/was a full blown difficult child.......like I didn't already know. lol In his teen years he got involved in street gangs in tx.....got out of that life a couple of years before katie. He said the shelter opened his eyes to the fact the only way he would ever be able to make a decent living to support his family was to learn to read and get his GED or he'd be forever stuck in nowhere jobs that paid nothing. Which would have them always on the brink of living on the streets. After these past months in the shelter........that thought scared them both. Mo doesn't have most of the programs we have here. We have them because we're considered Appalachian. He seemed very sincere. As does katie. I'm thinking the being homeless, coupled with being able to see the lives her sibs were making for themselves via facebook......had a positive effect. I mean c'mon.....even Travis with all his disabilities is attending college. I don't know what we'll do tomorrow nite. husband and I can't afford to give them 46 bucks for the motel. I'm praying hard katie can connect with that pastor and he'll help them with that. The kids are even willing to do odd jobs for the churches or attend services in return for any help. (something they'd never even consider before) Their effort has in my opinion earned them the right to sleep on the floor for a few days if we're given no other choice. But it will be hard as currently the only room in the house with room is my diningroom.....because the family room still has nichole's things in it and still needs to be cleaned up. And if we do that I've got to figure out what I'm going to do with Betsy who doesn't like strangers and will bark at them all night long. husband has suggested moving her crate up to our room.....not sure how that would work out. There is more about katie's biomom........but it's 3am and I have to get up early and start all over again. And the pain medications have finally kicked in. So I'll have to fill you all in on that later. But yeah, so far other than the crappy economy and the birth certificate hitches........it's going well. Which reminds me........I have no clue where we'll get 30 bucks for 3 birth certificates. d*mn [/QUOTE]
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