SuZir
Well-Known Member
Well at least all the men who matter. I'm getting silent treatment from husband and both of my sons. And even my dog is not happy with me. And I haven't had good time anyway lately (sleeping issues, anxiety, whatever) so I'm quite ready to book myself a flight somewhere far away for few days. Or at take a car and forget my phone home (not that they are talking to me right now, but I'm sure they are back at whining to me in no time.)
husband was driving through difficult child's city for business and stopped by. difficult child told him something he and his girlfriend are planning about and what husband is not too happy about (neither am I, but it still is very typical young adult stuff, I will be back to that maybe later if they proceed with the matter.) husband just had to go to 'forbidden area' while trying to talk some sense to difficult child and asked about how difficult child thinks this plan will work out when he and girlfriend split. difficult child threw a temper tantrum and his 'poor ickle me' routine how we never have any faith in him and never support him. That of course is total bovine feces if there is any. But they had a nasty row over it and husband is still very miffed with difficult child. When he came home he was mulling over and over what an insolent whelp difficult child is. I did listen to him, I did validate his feelings, I did agree with him that difficult child really was being an insolent whelp. I did all that several times. But as i said I haven't been feeling too well lately and I was feeling grumpy. So after about fifth time I did snap and asked husband that if he got him worked up this badly over our insolent whelp being an insolent whelp, if he plans to get worked up next over the fact that difficult child has blue eyes or that he eats a lot. I mean what did he expect? That because our insolent whelp has had a good month and because he at times shows some signs of maturation that he would just stop being an insolent whelp just like that?
So now husband is miffed with both me and my insolent whelp. My insolent whelp is miffed with me because I never have any faith in him. And just hour ago I also manage to get easy child miffed with me.
easy child is done with compulsory education and started first part of his voluntary school last week (well how voluntary it really is, is a different matter. but there is no law that makes it compulsory for him to attend school any more.) easy child has decided to give a try for making it to pro sports and is taking one extra year in High School to accommodate that. Still he needs to do a bit more independent study than average highschooler. Apparently easy child imagined I would give him free rains on his education like we did with difficult child in this point. Not gonna happen. Different kid, different rules. difficult child has always learned best when you give him free rains over the material. He is very good at grasping the big picture from a bulk of material and working his way to details. He also learns best reading independently and not at all as well by listening. easy child is much more traditional learner. Listening in class, taking notes, doing his homework, learning step by step and piece by piece to put together the big picture works very well for him. (And there is also the fact that while easy child is a very smart kid, he is not gifted in a way difficult child is. That I didn't say to him.) So he is going to go to his classes (even if difficult child never went most of his), he is going to do his homework in time and study every week for the classes he is missing bulk of class time of. easy child had a short sport camp this weekend and he just came home and I made it clear he is not going anywhere this evening before he has caught up all the homework and reading from his first week.
So now also easy child is miffed with me because 'I always favour the difficult child and never let him do the things I let difficult child do.'
And my dog hurt his paw and is in restricted activity till the stitches are taken off. And he is miffed with me too.
So I'm about ready to find some nice spa or short trip for next weekend just for me. Or maybe I just go to our summer cottage with berry and mushroom baskets with me and forbid anyone else coming even near the place...
husband was driving through difficult child's city for business and stopped by. difficult child told him something he and his girlfriend are planning about and what husband is not too happy about (neither am I, but it still is very typical young adult stuff, I will be back to that maybe later if they proceed with the matter.) husband just had to go to 'forbidden area' while trying to talk some sense to difficult child and asked about how difficult child thinks this plan will work out when he and girlfriend split. difficult child threw a temper tantrum and his 'poor ickle me' routine how we never have any faith in him and never support him. That of course is total bovine feces if there is any. But they had a nasty row over it and husband is still very miffed with difficult child. When he came home he was mulling over and over what an insolent whelp difficult child is. I did listen to him, I did validate his feelings, I did agree with him that difficult child really was being an insolent whelp. I did all that several times. But as i said I haven't been feeling too well lately and I was feeling grumpy. So after about fifth time I did snap and asked husband that if he got him worked up this badly over our insolent whelp being an insolent whelp, if he plans to get worked up next over the fact that difficult child has blue eyes or that he eats a lot. I mean what did he expect? That because our insolent whelp has had a good month and because he at times shows some signs of maturation that he would just stop being an insolent whelp just like that?
So now husband is miffed with both me and my insolent whelp. My insolent whelp is miffed with me because I never have any faith in him. And just hour ago I also manage to get easy child miffed with me.
easy child is done with compulsory education and started first part of his voluntary school last week (well how voluntary it really is, is a different matter. but there is no law that makes it compulsory for him to attend school any more.) easy child has decided to give a try for making it to pro sports and is taking one extra year in High School to accommodate that. Still he needs to do a bit more independent study than average highschooler. Apparently easy child imagined I would give him free rains on his education like we did with difficult child in this point. Not gonna happen. Different kid, different rules. difficult child has always learned best when you give him free rains over the material. He is very good at grasping the big picture from a bulk of material and working his way to details. He also learns best reading independently and not at all as well by listening. easy child is much more traditional learner. Listening in class, taking notes, doing his homework, learning step by step and piece by piece to put together the big picture works very well for him. (And there is also the fact that while easy child is a very smart kid, he is not gifted in a way difficult child is. That I didn't say to him.) So he is going to go to his classes (even if difficult child never went most of his), he is going to do his homework in time and study every week for the classes he is missing bulk of class time of. easy child had a short sport camp this weekend and he just came home and I made it clear he is not going anywhere this evening before he has caught up all the homework and reading from his first week.
So now also easy child is miffed with me because 'I always favour the difficult child and never let him do the things I let difficult child do.'
And my dog hurt his paw and is in restricted activity till the stitches are taken off. And he is miffed with me too.
So I'm about ready to find some nice spa or short trip for next weekend just for me. Or maybe I just go to our summer cottage with berry and mushroom baskets with me and forbid anyone else coming even near the place...