PatriotsGirl
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M messages me on Facebook and asks if I have ever considered why difficult child uses. He tells me she uses as a coping mechanism to deal with childhood traumas. I ask what trauma?? He tells me that she told him she was sexually abused by my mother's husband.
My mother and her husband moved to Georgia with us when we first moved here. We all lived in the same house for two of our moves before they moved on their own - my mom always helped out with the kids, etc. difficult child used to love spending time with Nana and J.
He and my mother moved back to Massachusetts after some time. I shipped difficult child off to go stay with them when I first learned of her addiction issues and she refused rehab. She was there until she woke one morning to J watching her sleeping and playing with himself. My mother threw him out but later took him back. I have not talked to her since. J also pulled the same with my neices.
Now, today, difficult child claimed he was sexually abusing her as a child when they were living with us. She tells me it started at the second house we moved to when she was in elementary school. Because this man has a sexual addiction, I don't find this impossible. And it angers me. To the point where I want to do something stupid.
But what does bother me, and I hate that I question such a thing but - she loved spending time with them. If she was being abused - would she have wanted to be with them? Sleep over their house (when they lived elsewhere)? Why would she agree to go up to Massachusetts to stay with them if he had abused her? Is this how a victim would normally act?
She had also told M that I shipped her and her dog up there to be homeless for six months. (I had sent her to stay with my mother!). When I asked her why she would tell him such a thing, she said he doesn't know what he is talking about and to not talk to him. She was telling me to block him on Facebook and was adamant that we not talk anymore.
I ripped off a message to my mother today telling her what I was told. Now I am really wondering if I am being lied to. I know he touched himself in front of them and my neices came forward and told of other things he had pulled at the beach in the past. He would be in the water and tried to get the girls to touch him. Sick.
But I just can't understand why difficult child would spend time with them if she was being abused...
My mother and her husband moved to Georgia with us when we first moved here. We all lived in the same house for two of our moves before they moved on their own - my mom always helped out with the kids, etc. difficult child used to love spending time with Nana and J.
He and my mother moved back to Massachusetts after some time. I shipped difficult child off to go stay with them when I first learned of her addiction issues and she refused rehab. She was there until she woke one morning to J watching her sleeping and playing with himself. My mother threw him out but later took him back. I have not talked to her since. J also pulled the same with my neices.
Now, today, difficult child claimed he was sexually abusing her as a child when they were living with us. She tells me it started at the second house we moved to when she was in elementary school. Because this man has a sexual addiction, I don't find this impossible. And it angers me. To the point where I want to do something stupid.
But what does bother me, and I hate that I question such a thing but - she loved spending time with them. If she was being abused - would she have wanted to be with them? Sleep over their house (when they lived elsewhere)? Why would she agree to go up to Massachusetts to stay with them if he had abused her? Is this how a victim would normally act?
She had also told M that I shipped her and her dog up there to be homeless for six months. (I had sent her to stay with my mother!). When I asked her why she would tell him such a thing, she said he doesn't know what he is talking about and to not talk to him. She was telling me to block him on Facebook and was adamant that we not talk anymore.
I ripped off a message to my mother today telling her what I was told. Now I am really wondering if I am being lied to. I know he touched himself in front of them and my neices came forward and told of other things he had pulled at the beach in the past. He would be in the water and tried to get the girls to touch him. Sick.
But I just can't understand why difficult child would spend time with them if she was being abused...