Approved for in-home family therapy!

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by givnmegryhr, Feb 7, 2007.

  1. givnmegryhr

    givnmegryhr New Member

    I was ready to beg today. We had to go for a re-evaluation in order to get approved for family therapy. Things are not improving, our mobile therapist has moved on, trying to get hours in doing other things in order to become a school guidance counselor, and the behavioral specialist doesnt even put in his hours he is approved of. The MT had recommended family therapy long ago and the BS didnt agree,but his tuned has changed now that the MT isn't here and chances arent good that a new one would be available any time soon. Well, the psychologist that did the re-evaluation,the same one who did the original evaluation. says he would recommend Residential Treatment Center (RTC),but the way things work they probably wouldn't put it through just because we haven't exhausted everything else. He said he doesn't think the family therapy is going to help , but we'll try it for a few months and see. Encouraging huh? He made a very good point being the other kids and husband and I don't deserve to live like this and if something isn't done he doesn't see our family lasting another 2 years. I hate to say,but I agree. I told my oldest ds 13 about the meeting and he is already imagining how it would be without the hitting and yelling . I know that it is necessary and a friend of mine whose son is now in his 40's, said if someone had told her to do that when he was my son's age she would do it. I just don't know if we can,but we definitely can't go on this way and the other kids definitely don't deserve to live like this. It sure doesn't make it easier. Thanks for listening.
     
  2. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    Glad to hear that wheels for treatment are in motion! There is a mentality that all other resources should be utilized before out of home treatment placements. In a way, I agree. But having been at the other end, begging for help it can be a slow process.

    Keeping fingers crossed that things settle a bit for you. :warrior:
     
  3. ellenr1

    ellenr1 New Member

    Hugs to you! We did the in-home family therapy with a pair of social workers that ended this past June, and although it didn't seem at the time that it had accomplished much more than keeping him out of the hospital and out of trouble with the law,our son really changed in the months just after we had finished, and he has been a different kid since school started. More mature, less irritable. I tell you one thing, he doesn't hit me or his sisters anymore after they helped us come up with a plan (I had to call the cops, it was awful, but he doesn't hit me anymore).

    I agree, it's hard to wait for someone to throw you a lifeline when you feel like you're going under for the third time. I'll keep my fingers crossed that this helps you like it did our family.

    A thought to keep in mind: no matter how much good an out of home placement might do, at some point that child comes home, andif the family dynamics haven't changed, you won't be able to keep enough structure in place to help that child break out of their destructive patterns.
     
  4. mrscatinthehat

    mrscatinthehat Seussical

    I hope the in home therapy does some good. We didn't have a lot of luck with it because unfortunately things were too far gone for it to work. That and our in home person always had the attitude and went so far as to say that we weren't the client difficult child 1 was. So she was there for her. That was the beginning of our battle of reminding them that we are a family of 5. Hope it goes well.

    Beth
     
  5. givnmegryhr

    givnmegryhr New Member

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    A thought to keep in mind: no matter how much good an out of home placement might do, at some point that child comes home, andif the family dynamics haven't changed, you won't be able to keep enough structure in place to help that child break out of their destructive patterns.

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    My thoughts exactly. My hope is that they can get everyone on the same page. I really think most of the problem is husband. He just needs someone to show him the right way and coming from me and the kids it isn't working. It has to come from someone else.
     
  6. jodyice

    jodyice New Member

    I hope that the home therapy works for you. The team we have right now don't really seem to be doing much good. Considering this is the 3rd time, difficult child has been in psychiatric hospital since they've been involved. The lead on our team puts off the feeling it's such a bother when we call him for help. But our last time and the wrap around team before that were wonderful. ~sending hugs and prayers to you~
     
  7. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Oh, two yrs? What a thing to say! So sad. So disheartening.
    Good luck with-in-home therapy. And especially good luck with-husband.
     
  8. givnmegryhr

    givnmegryhr New Member

    Thanks jodyice. I hope our team is good. Guess its the luck of the draw. Can you ask for your last team, if they worked before? Thats ashame that he makes you feel that way. If you can get the courage up , you might tell him so. Afterall , it IS his job! Good Luck to you too.
     
  9. givnmegryhr

    givnmegryhr New Member

    I really can understand why he said that. Thanks for the luck.
     
  10. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm glad you will be getting the in home therapy. I think it helped some for our difficult child and it was nice not to be running out for therapy appts.
     
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