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toughlovin
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So my husband is down visiting my son at rehab. Sounds like things are not going all that well... although he did see him today with the therapist and will have some time with him tomorrow which is good... and it is probably good that I am not there. So I guess my son feels he has some mental health issues (true) and that if he can get those handled then he wont really have a substance abuse problem!!!!! He still feels he will be able to drink and use pot recreationally. And he is not doing all he needs to do to really follow the program and is being somewhat defiant. Darn it, it is driving me nuts. I just want to shake some sense into him! Which is why it is good that I am not there!!!
I guess he said that when he had a bad time with the girlfriend he just drank straight for a week (guess that was before he went in) but if he deals with all his issues he wont have to do that. I get that part of it is self medicating but that IS the problem, he is using substances instead of really facing the pain and his problems.
Anyway I just called my husband bad to point out to him, that thinking about not using forever may be too much for him to think about. That is why they say it is one day at a time!!! So to point that out and hopefully he can acknowledge that his use right now has gotten him on the street and into trouble.
My husband said it does seem like he wants to get his life together... so maybe having that want is a first step. I just don't know how long he is going to be able to stay at this rehab.... and he clearly is not ready to be out on his own.
I am so afraid he is going to end up on the street again and I know we have to let that happen....and it just makes my heart sink.
I saw someting on fb last night so it looks like the girlfriend has really ended it... which is probably good... but my heart aches for him too as no matter what that hurts.
And although it is good I am not there... I wish I was.
TL
I guess he said that when he had a bad time with the girlfriend he just drank straight for a week (guess that was before he went in) but if he deals with all his issues he wont have to do that. I get that part of it is self medicating but that IS the problem, he is using substances instead of really facing the pain and his problems.
Anyway I just called my husband bad to point out to him, that thinking about not using forever may be too much for him to think about. That is why they say it is one day at a time!!! So to point that out and hopefully he can acknowledge that his use right now has gotten him on the street and into trouble.
My husband said it does seem like he wants to get his life together... so maybe having that want is a first step. I just don't know how long he is going to be able to stay at this rehab.... and he clearly is not ready to be out on his own.
I am so afraid he is going to end up on the street again and I know we have to let that happen....and it just makes my heart sink.
I saw someting on fb last night so it looks like the girlfriend has really ended it... which is probably good... but my heart aches for him too as no matter what that hurts.
And although it is good I am not there... I wish I was.
TL