Good morning, I believe that my almost 16 year old daugher has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) (I know it can't be officially diagnosed until age 18, but she has the symptoms/tendencies.) It is very hurtful to deal with. I never know when she is telling me the truth. One minute she loves me and tells me I'm the best mom in the world, and the next minute she hates me and is hurling horrible hurtful insults at me. I love her so much but have become almost unsensitized to her. I have maintained the sensibility to stay calm, grounded, consistent, firm, and loving, but it is to the point where I don't know what to say to her anymore. We had a 3-day vacation to the beach planned, and the night before we were to leave, she lied to me and swore at me and told me I was pathetic. It was the straw that broke the camel's back and I cancelled our vacation. I know she is so disappointed but I just can't take that kind of behavior anymore and there has to be consequences. She is in therapy but does not attend regularly. I would like to begin Family Therapy (in addition to her individual counselling) but don't know where to begin. I have been to individual therapy myself with 2 different counselors who helped me to deal with the situation, so far as to give me some strategies to cope, but I feel there has to be more that can be done. I have heard a lot about Solution-based family therapy and wonder if that is the way to go? Does anyone have a success story about some type of therapy that has worked in this type of situation? I would appreciate any help. Thank you.