robinm1922
One day at a time
One of them was their take on school work. Apply the laws of natural consequences - don't turn in homework, grade is F. Don't study for test, grade is F. Don't get passing grades, don't get promoted to next grade. Guess what! The school will have classes for grade 8 (or whatever) again next year!
That sums up my approach this year. Keep telling difficult child that her friends are going to leave her behind, she swears that isn't going to happen but I am not yet convinced!
I actually have a psychiatrist that is behind this line of thinking. I told him I was looking at school as an early life lesson no work no reward. If you don't put out an effort you won't get anything in return! What she is doing in school won't cut it in the work force!
Maybe they should live in our places for a while and see if the reward and punishment thing really works. Not for mine just make all of us miserable!