Sunshineaftertherain
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I feel very sad and confused. Has any of you been put in a situation where you had to deal with realizing that you have to choose between your kids because of their emotional wellbeing?
My oldest son, 16, is diagnosed with PDA, anxiety, ADD, possible bipolar and lately some personality stuff is being questioned.
Our son can be an angel..." jackle and hide"...he can be the most amazing kid, and then flip within seconds ( when he doesnt get his way or you say something that upset him) to becoming terribly abusive. Mostly verbal and emotional, but lately becoming more physical ...
So the therapists feel we have no option, he needs to be removed from our home.....but in RSA we dont have residential faccilities or propper longterm psychiatric treatment options.....They were even mentioning maybe removing our younger son, because he is exposed to the violence in our home....I am very worried now, I feel scared, guilty ( towards our oldest) and sad...because I do luv my son, but for our family to be safe and protection of youngest we might need to send our oldest away...because he is only 16, he cant live on his own?.....we dont know whats going to hapoen regarding schooling and he really wants to study further...so by sending him away, he wont be able to continue taking his subjects....so I feel we are messing up his whole future.....I feel guilty because we need to choose between our family and our son with mental illness....at times like now, he sounds so peacefull, chatting with his friends online...but I am constantly anxious about the next outburst...
We have spoken to him regarding his behaviour, he is in therapy (for 13 yrs), we tried familymediation, ...different medications....what confuses us is that this behaviour only happens at home,...to the outside world he is adorable and well behaved.....he says this is the way he is, dont have to change......any advice would be welcomed.....
My oldest son, 16, is diagnosed with PDA, anxiety, ADD, possible bipolar and lately some personality stuff is being questioned.
Our son can be an angel..." jackle and hide"...he can be the most amazing kid, and then flip within seconds ( when he doesnt get his way or you say something that upset him) to becoming terribly abusive. Mostly verbal and emotional, but lately becoming more physical ...
So the therapists feel we have no option, he needs to be removed from our home.....but in RSA we dont have residential faccilities or propper longterm psychiatric treatment options.....They were even mentioning maybe removing our younger son, because he is exposed to the violence in our home....I am very worried now, I feel scared, guilty ( towards our oldest) and sad...because I do luv my son, but for our family to be safe and protection of youngest we might need to send our oldest away...because he is only 16, he cant live on his own?.....we dont know whats going to hapoen regarding schooling and he really wants to study further...so by sending him away, he wont be able to continue taking his subjects....so I feel we are messing up his whole future.....I feel guilty because we need to choose between our family and our son with mental illness....at times like now, he sounds so peacefull, chatting with his friends online...but I am constantly anxious about the next outburst...
We have spoken to him regarding his behaviour, he is in therapy (for 13 yrs), we tried familymediation, ...different medications....what confuses us is that this behaviour only happens at home,...to the outside world he is adorable and well behaved.....he says this is the way he is, dont have to change......any advice would be welcomed.....