mumfromdownunder
New Member
Hi everyone and Merry Christmas,
I decided to text my son on Sunday after he had called multiple times last week (from his new mobile number) I do not pick up when he calls, as I just cannot deal with the drama anymore - I have not been in contact with him for a few months (about the time I posted my last thread) , the text I received back from him was as follows:.... I was gonna ask for money for Christmas or something hell in debt with Phone company!...
I knew he would be asking for something seeing as Christmas is just around the corner. I explained to him that If he sent me a copy of his bill I would put some money towards it as a part of his Christmas Present. He did forward the bill to me, but then asked for money instead. I replied to him again, saying that I would put money toward the bill but I would not give him cash (he said he wanted cash because he was bored!,). Because I said No, it did not go down very well and the same old barrage of texts (when he doesn't get what he wants from me) began again. after a couple of hours of this (including 39 missed calls) I had had enough and turned my phone of completely for 2 days and had 2 days off work (mentally exhausted).
I just cannot deal with this heartbreak and pain anymore - he says he is no longer on drugs and hardly smokes anymore?? ( I feel like the only way to keep my sanity sometimes is not see him or talk to him), Christmas is ruined every year because of the "situation". I don't really want to see him this Christmas (first time ever), is that bad/awful of me? Am I doing the right thing? Detatching with love I am sure is harder for the parents (so sad). Apologies as i am rambling but, I have had enough i am a nervous wreck but still trying to have some sort of Christmas spirit for my younger son (this is not working).
thank you for listening
I decided to text my son on Sunday after he had called multiple times last week (from his new mobile number) I do not pick up when he calls, as I just cannot deal with the drama anymore - I have not been in contact with him for a few months (about the time I posted my last thread) , the text I received back from him was as follows:.... I was gonna ask for money for Christmas or something hell in debt with Phone company!...
I knew he would be asking for something seeing as Christmas is just around the corner. I explained to him that If he sent me a copy of his bill I would put some money towards it as a part of his Christmas Present. He did forward the bill to me, but then asked for money instead. I replied to him again, saying that I would put money toward the bill but I would not give him cash (he said he wanted cash because he was bored!,). Because I said No, it did not go down very well and the same old barrage of texts (when he doesn't get what he wants from me) began again. after a couple of hours of this (including 39 missed calls) I had had enough and turned my phone of completely for 2 days and had 2 days off work (mentally exhausted).
I just cannot deal with this heartbreak and pain anymore - he says he is no longer on drugs and hardly smokes anymore?? ( I feel like the only way to keep my sanity sometimes is not see him or talk to him), Christmas is ruined every year because of the "situation". I don't really want to see him this Christmas (first time ever), is that bad/awful of me? Am I doing the right thing? Detatching with love I am sure is harder for the parents (so sad). Apologies as i am rambling but, I have had enough i am a nervous wreck but still trying to have some sort of Christmas spirit for my younger son (this is not working).
thank you for listening