No, easy child is not taking drugs. Wasn't sure how to title this or if it's even in the right place really. Back when my easy child was hopitalized for potential meningitis that ended up being an incredibly painful kidney infection, the docs gave her Oxycodone for pain along with antibiotics. She doesn't like those types of drugs - the downers (or any other) but she took them for the first day. Shortly thereafter she fell and hurt her back and shoulder and our regular doctor gave her Flexerils. Again she only took them for a day. She had stopped taking her celexa shortly after moving back home and she also stopped taking the trazadone (which was to help her sleep and work with the celexa). Anyway, she's got this stockpile of drugs in her drawer. I found out shortly after Christmas that she had given - GIVEN - my nephew the balance of her Oxycodone (about 20 pills). He ate them in a weekend. He's a druggie - he is a majorly addicted pothead and barb fiend and alcoholic. It is amazing to me that no one else, especially his parents, can't tell that he's abusing drugs. I've known since last Summer and it was just a guess. He recently needed to talk to someone about it and came to me (we are close and he often comes to me for my advice) as well as to his counselor the same day. That is when I learned that he ate all of easy child's pills in a weekend. easy child did come to me a few days ago and said she was angry with him because he never 'paid her for the pills' she gave him. I was really upset with her for giving them to him and told her so. After my nephew spilled his guts to me I had a chat with easy child and further explained that she needs to put all those drugs in the medicine cabinet and that she is to be very careful about her cousin. I explained to her that he is abusing barbs and that not only will she never see the money, but if something awful happens she could be called to the mat for giving away her presciption drugs. Here's the rub: My sisters and I have routinely given each other medications to each other over the years...and yes, the kids have been witness to this. For me and my nearby sister it's mostly just been asthma medications (she refuses to be treated for her asthma yet hits me up for asthma medications). Also, my DR gave me ambien and I hated it and since I knew she took that, I gave them to her. So easy child said to me, "I didn't think anything of it because you and aunt T do it all the time". Well, she got me there, didn't she? Anyway she knows now to not give her cousin any drugs...but this was really a wake up call for me and the cavalier attitude we have about exchanging and sharing our prescription medications. H used to always tell me that it was wrong, but I always waved away his concerns. Now I will be much more careful. Incidentally, my nephew claims he is going to get help and go to meetings or whatever. But he's told me this before and I just don't think he will. on the other hand, maybe he really has hit bottom. His father, who we both work for, is giving him a full time job and salary to match with all the benefits beginning now. I just learned of it - I am the HR person among other things - and I have to wonder if this will only compound the stresses he already has that drive him to drug use. on the other hand, maybe this will snap him into shape. I don't know. He is 27 and still behaves like am irresponsible 19 year old, playing video games till the morning hours. He is supposed to work 9-5, but rolls in at around 10:30 most mornings and tries to make excuses to get out of here by 4PM. Some days he just doesn't show up at all, without a call, or will call in sick with a stomach flu, but I know it is more likely he was out on a bender. I cannot believe his parents are so oblivious, but I don't dare be the messenger - my sister hates it when people point things like that out to her, especially about her kids. And my brother in law will only yell at and shame his son rather than do something radical like fire him. Anyway...just sort of worrying out loud. Thoughts, as always, are welcome.