I stayed up on my vacation in Illinois ALMOST ALL NIGHT talking to my son and trying to give him advice and comfort while his wife is out of town with my grandson--and he found a post on a forum saying she and her sister are looking at real estate and she is thinking of leaving him. I posted about this earlier so you may want to check it out if you're brand new to my newest dilemma. When I say he found a post, I mean she posts on a forum and he read her post and it was, as he put it, "gut-wrenching." After talking to him today, he is adamant that he just wants support and doesn't want me to say she is leaving him. I think she is well on her way to leaving him, may even have contacted a lawyer, but I guess I was making him feel worse by trying to find him a good lawyer, etc. He wants to save his marriage. From what he told me, it doesn't sound as if she is interested in saving it. Her sister is also going through a divorce (her hub is serving our country in Iraq, but she was written him that she wants a divorce) and the two sisters are very close. So I guess they think it will be a good thing if they both get divorced, shared a place, and share babysitting, although I'm not sure. And maybe I'm wrong and she WON'T leave my son. But I have a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach that she will. And, with that, who knows what will happen to grandson. So here is an the update: I am no longer going to try to help him prepare in case she is planning on leaving him. From what he has told me, their marriage has been bad for a long time and marriage counseling only made it worse...empowered her to be "independent" and she shut him out of her life. I guess my role is just to listen and to tell him to hope for the best though. That's what makes him feel better. He is a little frightened that she won't come home tomorrow night with his son as expected. And, if she does, he isn't sure what he should say to her, if anything. My gut tells me to advise him to sit her down and talk, but his male friends have mostly told him to have a "wait and see" attitude. So this mom has to cool her jets and just be supportive without giving out advice. I'll tell you one thing. I won't stay up all night talking to him again. It made me so full of dread and anxiety that *I* can barely function, and I can't help him or anyone else if I'm in THAT bad shape. I was sad to learn that his wife doesn't like me. THere's a story behind that, but it's for another post. It is really very trivial and I'm flabbergasted that she is still upset about it. If they stay together, I will still have little to do with my grandson because J. doesn't like me. Ain't that swell? That alone had me crying a good deal of the day. This is just a mess. My first two kids have really been heartbreakers, and a lot is because of who they married. However, I love this son very much and will put it all aside for him and wear a brave face around him. But I feel like a piece of garbage. It seems like I don't do anything right regarding my oldest two boys.