We finally heard from difficult child. But only because we received something important in the mail for him and husband sent him a FB message. difficult child replied.............kinda, sorta, no details. Said he wanted the piece of mail, but gave no hint where he is. Uh huh. So, we still have the piece of mail and we know difficult child is alive. These are both good things as the piece of mail is a HUGE relief to both difficult child and to us parents..... He finally got covered under DSHS. This means he now qualifies for many more sources of assistance (mental health, rehab, medical, case management, housing, education, employment, etc). And, to be honest, it's great for us parents, too........ We now know he can get the full range of services possible. Huge, huge, HUGE relief for me and husband. Much more comprehensive, while also being much less complicated and much less expensive. Good for all of us. It feels healthier for us to deliver difficult child's mail (DSHS card) to him at a neutral, public place. Boundaries. Especially when we don't know what's going on. But, of course, we're glad to see him resurface. Even if only briefly and obliquely. The help for difficult child is there. Let's see if he'll take it.....or at least get his mail. So.......it's another good day! Think I should make some fun, VISIBLE way to mark off the good days. Remind myself of the good stuff, visually.