geekparent
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My difficult child is on behavioral probation at the parochial school that she attends. She has frequent emotional outbursts that can turn violent (hitting, kicking, screaming) if she is not caught and calmed down in a reasonable time and manner. The reason for the probation (as stated on the "contract" I received) is that:
The second part of the "contract" states that the probationary period is to basically have difficult child turn into a model child in the span of four short weeks. All of the requirements to remain at school are things we've been working on for a full year, and she only just started medication in Nov 09, and even the medication hasn't been perfect. We're trying to help her, but it takes a proper diagnosis and the willingness and training of her teachers to work with her as she needs, I think.
Anyway, I know that difficult child will not be able to meet all the requirements in the Probation contract. She's just not at that level of control or management and we'll still working with her medications (and also with getting a second opinion on her diagnosis). If she fails to meet expectations, they will ask her to leave. If she actually manages to survive the probationary period, she's good to go unless/until she goes on probation again.
I know that they don't have the resources or ability to help her at her school (and I sort of feel like they haven't really tried to help, either but that's another story). I'm just so reluctant to move her with one quarter left in the school year. Yet, if I don't move/transfer her and she bombs out in the middle of spring quarter, then she'll be asked to withdraw and we'll be up the proverbial creek.
difficult child suffers from anxiety (that part of her diagnosis I agree with), and I'm not sure how she's going to react to changing schools. I have to do what's best for my difficult child in the long run, but I'm torn up about this. Does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions?
- difficult child's inability to control her emotions when she does not get her way has caused disruption in her learning and the learning of her peers.
- difficult child has kicked and hit her teacher and the person in charge of day care.
The second part of the "contract" states that the probationary period is to basically have difficult child turn into a model child in the span of four short weeks. All of the requirements to remain at school are things we've been working on for a full year, and she only just started medication in Nov 09, and even the medication hasn't been perfect. We're trying to help her, but it takes a proper diagnosis and the willingness and training of her teachers to work with her as she needs, I think.
Anyway, I know that difficult child will not be able to meet all the requirements in the Probation contract. She's just not at that level of control or management and we'll still working with her medications (and also with getting a second opinion on her diagnosis). If she fails to meet expectations, they will ask her to leave. If she actually manages to survive the probationary period, she's good to go unless/until she goes on probation again.
I know that they don't have the resources or ability to help her at her school (and I sort of feel like they haven't really tried to help, either but that's another story). I'm just so reluctant to move her with one quarter left in the school year. Yet, if I don't move/transfer her and she bombs out in the middle of spring quarter, then she'll be asked to withdraw and we'll be up the proverbial creek.
difficult child suffers from anxiety (that part of her diagnosis I agree with), and I'm not sure how she's going to react to changing schools. I have to do what's best for my difficult child in the long run, but I'm torn up about this. Does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions?