He only had stem function.
New Leaf. Your husband made choices himself that could have affected the outcome of his life and his end. He lobbied hard to go home. He must have known how ill he was, how much he needed the hospital if there would be any chance to have survived this.
You honored his choice. However hard that was that this was his choice, it truly was. He seemed to show no ambivalence at all about going home. He knew what it would bring. For your time here on the site you have written that something in him seemed to have turned inward, that he may have lost some fight.
You wondered if it had to do with his sadness about his girls. Rain knows this. In her heart of hearts she knows what it cost her father, the way she and her sister have been living. She must know in some part of her, what the manipulation must have cost him. The price he paid for her life choices.
What more could she have done, in her own grief and guilt, but to look for a bad guy, onto whom to project her feelings? How could we not feel compassion for her? While she is responsible for the hurt she has caused, this was not her goal. Surely it was not. She loves her father.
However she has chosen to hurt you, her pain is 100 times worse, or will be if she ever wakes up from this long night of the soul that she has been living. I feel sad for her and sad for you and sad for her father, now no longer suffering.
I pray that this might prove a catalyst somewhere down the road, for her to choose differently, but for now I suspect she will double down. That will be, I fear, her preferred method to cope. To blame you.
M has a favorite saying, one of his favorite. It is prettier and more targeted in Spanish.
Todo mundo busque un culpable. More or less it means, Everybody looks for a culprit (or, somebody to blame)
At the risk of repeating myself I will say it again. Rain may believe her grievance is with you. And it may well be, to a point. But her biggest problem is with herself. If you can, I would try to keep this in mind. She has lost her father, and on some level she blames herself.