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If you kept up with my first post, I evicted my 19 yo daughter and her first stop was at my sister's home for a few days. difficult child had planned on returning to Minn where she had been living with her boyfriend and his parents but that plan fell through when the boyfriend's mom said no. So, the boyfriend came here by bus to be with difficult child and supposedly told his dad that he would return when the dad found him an apartment so he and difficult child would have a place to stay together. This boyfriend is on SSI and only gets $800 a month to live on and his parents decided to charge him $400 a month rent to live with them once difficult child moved in. I am assuming that no longer welcoming difficult child in their home motivated their son to say he wanted to move out and he promptly took a bus here. This 21 yo boyfriend is also a difficult child and from what I gathered, is kind of "slow" and does things without thinking. Like leaving difficult child in a store and taking off to get a meal at a nearby McD's without telling anyone. They spent hours looking for him. Called police and reported him missing until he found his way back to the apt.
They were staying at one of difficult child's friend's apartment until something happened and the friends mom said they both had to leave. So now they are staying in a motel room for $250 a week. The boyfriend paid for it but he only gets $800 a month from SSI so that won't last long. difficult child called my sister and asked could she bring her a can opener? My sister is keeping track of difficult child and I think it's stressing her out a lot. She even made plans to take difficult child and her boyfriend out to eat on the weekend so she and her husband could meet the boyfriend.
My sister told me that difficult child was asking her if she thought I missed her. She said she didn't know. I think difficult child is testing the water, wondering if she can come back home somehow. I don't want her back, I can't afford to help her out financially and yet I hate to think of her out in the freezing cold with no place to stay, nothing to eat, etc. I'm afraid that the boyfriend and she will get into some kind of fight and he will leave her homeless and go home to his parents.
I am also angry that difficult child's father and paternal Grandma want nothing to do with her and will do nothing to help her other than send her some bonds they had for her. When I spoke to the both of them, all they would say is -- no, she's not welcome here, we can't handle her, etc. My EX even said she might end up dead and that I should let the state cremate her to save money!! Can you imagine a father saying that? I can't believe I ever married that piece of work!
I don't know how---- HOW do I sleep at night and not still worry about my daughter? She is like a 12 year old and yet she wants adult privileges and will NOT listen to anyone telling her what to do with her life. She will listen to strangers and kids for advice before she would listen to a caring adult. She has no job, no income and only about $2,000 to her name, no ID even! Nothing in the bank. Only plan is to live with her boyfriend. Oh, and she's been letting her boyfriend take nude pictures of her and is sending them out via email to anyone who wants them. Don't ask me how I know that.
I am trying real hard to let her be and let her learn by mistakes but she hasn't in the past.It's really hard. I cry a lot. Thanks for listening. I hope someone at least learns something from my postings.
They were staying at one of difficult child's friend's apartment until something happened and the friends mom said they both had to leave. So now they are staying in a motel room for $250 a week. The boyfriend paid for it but he only gets $800 a month from SSI so that won't last long. difficult child called my sister and asked could she bring her a can opener? My sister is keeping track of difficult child and I think it's stressing her out a lot. She even made plans to take difficult child and her boyfriend out to eat on the weekend so she and her husband could meet the boyfriend.
My sister told me that difficult child was asking her if she thought I missed her. She said she didn't know. I think difficult child is testing the water, wondering if she can come back home somehow. I don't want her back, I can't afford to help her out financially and yet I hate to think of her out in the freezing cold with no place to stay, nothing to eat, etc. I'm afraid that the boyfriend and she will get into some kind of fight and he will leave her homeless and go home to his parents.
I am also angry that difficult child's father and paternal Grandma want nothing to do with her and will do nothing to help her other than send her some bonds they had for her. When I spoke to the both of them, all they would say is -- no, she's not welcome here, we can't handle her, etc. My EX even said she might end up dead and that I should let the state cremate her to save money!! Can you imagine a father saying that? I can't believe I ever married that piece of work!
I don't know how---- HOW do I sleep at night and not still worry about my daughter? She is like a 12 year old and yet she wants adult privileges and will NOT listen to anyone telling her what to do with her life. She will listen to strangers and kids for advice before she would listen to a caring adult. She has no job, no income and only about $2,000 to her name, no ID even! Nothing in the bank. Only plan is to live with her boyfriend. Oh, and she's been letting her boyfriend take nude pictures of her and is sending them out via email to anyone who wants them. Don't ask me how I know that.
I am trying real hard to let her be and let her learn by mistakes but she hasn't in the past.It's really hard. I cry a lot. Thanks for listening. I hope someone at least learns something from my postings.