My husband and I have detached from my difficult child and his girlfriend just within the last month. Most of you know the nearly unbearable pain that goes along with the detachment. Once difficult child moved to our area from FL, my sister did not agree on the way my husband and I handled things. She believed his lies and said that I was wrong about his drug use. There were times we were not on speaking terms. Prior to his arrival from FL, my sister had invited me on a short trip to the Gulf Coast. I found out a few days ago that she planned a trip with her college-age daughter and did not invite me. When I asked why, she said she did not think of me when she planned the trip. She said there were times we were not on speaking terms. This is a trip to celebrate her 50th birthday. She apologized through e-mail saying she would love for me to go. I am maxed on my credit card. She makes $55 per hour, but she did not offer to lend me the money. My husband does not like the beach, so he expects me to go with other people. I feel like my difficult child stabbed me in the heart and my sister has twisted the blade. Does this happen often in families of difficult children? My difficult child is living off his girlfriend while he drinks and they both use spice. (I am not positive about the spice.) Since my son is so troubled, I feel self-conscious. I feel that I must also appear as a loser, since I am the mother of a difficult child.