And you guys are so much part of it. Thank you. Evey smidge of advice you have ever given me has helped me to finally find my balance with the universe. I have walked away from my parents, (literally told them I do not want to talk to them for awhile), and H.'s case (maybe someday I will re-open the case), and her estate. I have just absolved myself, and now I am going to grieve my beloved sister in MY way. No things, no tangible entities, no parental constraints. She was MY sister........and I will remember her, and connect with her in MY way. I cannot explain how much better I feel. I, once again, feel her spirit, her energy, her love - and it is unencumbered by anger, tangents, or complications. I have centered myself, and found my peace. I have found a support group, and I will be attending soon. I have lunch/dinner dates with friends set up, (a novelty for me). I am having fun at work, (again, not the norm). difficult child and I just had the best conversation I have had with him in months about none other than opera. And I am going up to Oregon over the new years to celebrate H's life with my cousin. I, for the first time in a long time, feel like I am on the right path. I feel empowered. Thank God, And thank all of you.