I went and brought her boiled chicken and rice. She was already feeling better when I got there and she ate pretty good. It must have just been something little, because she seemed to get over it pretty quick. He called me before I left the apartment to say she seemed better and I didn't need to come, but I didn't care, I wanted to see her for myself. As much of an idiot he is, we both love this dog equally and as much as I miss her, I don't worry that he isn't taking just as good care of her as I would. He treats her better then he ever did his own kids.
I didn't really speak to him, just focused on her. I left a good size portion of the chicken and rice and told him to feed it to her for a few days and nothing else.
It's not my brother in law's fault that I can't keep her here. He said I could take her once in awhile, but he co-owns the building with his brother in law and I don't want people to start complaining. I haven't really met the neighbors yet, but once I do I will feel them out and let them know I may have her here once in awhile, but not for good. I already met the women right next store and she already made a comment about hearing barking dogs in the neighborhood. I haven't heard one??? but I heard she is a big complainer. I have to watch out for her.
By the way DDD, I made it clear to him that as long as my name is on the business I will do the invoiceing. Once my name is off it, I don't care who does it. The checks all come to me and I won't have it any other way until the divorce is final. This gives me the upper hand as far as making sure the bills are paid. Like I said, once it's out of my name and I have my half of everything, I don't care if his new girlfriend takes it over. The good thing is the timing of all of this. The grass has stopped growing and now all I have to worry about until spring is the plowing invoices, which aren't very many. My time spent on this will be minimal until the spring and that is when this should all be over.
So get this. I go to bff Jills to pass out candy and guess who is walking the neighborhood with his girlfriend as she always takes her nephews out trick or treating and she lives just houses away from bff.
We were actually sitting on the front porch because the weather was so nice and all of a sudden she says, look to your left. There he was standing there with his hands in his pocket looking like he saw a ghost as he must have looked over and saw us sitting there. They took off down the other end of the street and I never saw him again.
The thing that really bothers me is I know my easy child daughter thinks this shouldn't bother me because I wanted this. I think I have been so careful as to not say anything negative that she really thinks I don't have the right to let this bother me. My niece actually told me she said this. She is very close to my niece and I asked her if my easy child says much to her and if I should be worried that she's holding to much in. She said the only thing she told her was that her father has a girlfriend and that I can't really be mad because I wanted this. I think I need to sit her down and say something like, I know you realize I wanted this and I don't ever want to say anything negative about your dad, but you need to know that there are very valid reasons that I want this, but not ones that I will discuss with you. I just don't think it's healthy for her to think that I don't care that he has a girlfriend, or what he's doing because I wanted this and he didn't. I think that is what she is really thinking.
What do you think? What should I say to her?