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toughlovin
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Ok i am still overseas...getting home on Saturday. Good thing we have had a good peaceful trip until now. I am so disgusted and fed up with my son that i just feel numb. I did not have internet for a few days. Got on today and got a FB message from my son that he couldnt handle the scrutiny and he was leaving the program!!! The program that has realy been there for him, has not kicked him out, that was really helping him!!! Can you believe it? I am sure all you warrior parents can.
I had gathered from his FB page that he is now in a relationship with a new girl from the program. That ws worrying me because 2 kids in this kind of program needing help does not make for a healthy relationship!!!
Last week his therapist told us he had failed a drug test (spice) and was really struggling. They were tightening the reins and putting him back on 24 hour supervision. Apparently that made him angry which is when i got the message from him. His phone also got wet and doesnt work. He said he woulc commuicate with us somehow.
Got an email from his therapist...he and this girl went awol yesterday. They finally sent her a text message ( after no response from messages from difficult child) saying if they didnt hear from her they would have to call the police. So they did hear back that they are ok.
Of course this means he cant go back to the program. I think we are too the point where we have to cut off all financial support even for treatment....we really cant afford to keep doing this. I am really angry at allwe have put into trying to help him.
I am kind of to the point of giving up. I just cant do this anymore. I can let him know i love him but thats it. I dont know what is going to happen. I suspect he will end up in jail and at this point maybe that is the best place for him! The program is letting his probation officer know he went awol....so my bet is they will violate him on his probation, which means if he comes back to our state hw will probably end up in jail.
I have had a wonderful 6 weeks and am going to do my best not to let this ruin my last couple of days...although to be honest i am not sure how to do that. The next couple of days are mostly travel days, the really good stuff we have already done thank goodness.
Anyway send me thoughts and i will be fully back on the board this weekend.
TL
I had gathered from his FB page that he is now in a relationship with a new girl from the program. That ws worrying me because 2 kids in this kind of program needing help does not make for a healthy relationship!!!
Last week his therapist told us he had failed a drug test (spice) and was really struggling. They were tightening the reins and putting him back on 24 hour supervision. Apparently that made him angry which is when i got the message from him. His phone also got wet and doesnt work. He said he woulc commuicate with us somehow.
Got an email from his therapist...he and this girl went awol yesterday. They finally sent her a text message ( after no response from messages from difficult child) saying if they didnt hear from her they would have to call the police. So they did hear back that they are ok.
Of course this means he cant go back to the program. I think we are too the point where we have to cut off all financial support even for treatment....we really cant afford to keep doing this. I am really angry at allwe have put into trying to help him.
I am kind of to the point of giving up. I just cant do this anymore. I can let him know i love him but thats it. I dont know what is going to happen. I suspect he will end up in jail and at this point maybe that is the best place for him! The program is letting his probation officer know he went awol....so my bet is they will violate him on his probation, which means if he comes back to our state hw will probably end up in jail.
I have had a wonderful 6 weeks and am going to do my best not to let this ruin my last couple of days...although to be honest i am not sure how to do that. The next couple of days are mostly travel days, the really good stuff we have already done thank goodness.
Anyway send me thoughts and i will be fully back on the board this weekend.
TL