Hi, I need help. I have a 19 yr old son that still lives at home. He has been smoking Pot and drinking for the last several months. I noticed it has gotten worse, his attitude over the last few weeks. He has a friend that was in and out of rehab and half-way houses for a year that he calls his best friend. This so called friend got himself kicked out of his mother's house and he lives with his dad who has no rules for him to follow and he runs wild, all the while with no car. My son has a car and seems to be the taxi of choice for these great friends! He was working steady for 7 months and then just blew off the job and never showed up. this was the beginning of June. He was out of work and looking for ajob and just started one yesterday. I asked him to please stop the running around during the week when he has to work and it falls on deaf ears. He worked a 10 hr day today and when I called him to see where he was he was at his friend's house, the one I spoke of. He can't seem to stay away from this kid. This kid is gonna get him in trouble, and worse maybe arrested and he laughs it off. He says, I 've been detained by the cops several times and never arrested, not gonna happen. He's so sarcastic and just down right brazen, thinking he knows it all. I plead with him to stay away from the kids but I fear these are the enablers for his drug and alcohol use. He's been lying about things too and I caught him several times in the lie. This kis seems to rule his day Occupational Therapist (OT) day existance and I want it to stop. We pay for his cellphone and car because he just got this job. We have given him money when he needed it. My husband says to stop with money giving and when he doesn't have gas in his car he can't go anywhere. I love him dearly and have always supported him with anything he wanted to do. I tell him I love him and don't want to see him get in trouble but it's like I'm an idiot and don't know what I'm talking about. I really wish this kid would get caught with drugs during his next pee test and get sent away again. I know that's awful but if he isn't around he tends not to stray far from home, like he did last yr when he was away. I would love to tell him that if this kid is so important to him and he can't live without him then he should move in with him and his dad, but he leaves the car here and the cellphone. I bite my tongue because I don't want to say something I will regret later. His dad is furious with him and he takes it out on me like I can fix him! I have tried everything short of asking him to leave. I don't think that's the answer for him. He's nasty to his dad yet when he wants money he goes to him! Unbelievable! Well, guess I rambled enough! thanks for the vent,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Louise