sweetdixie2
New Member
hi...I am new member and from Ottawa Ontario Canada. ...I have had to call the police this morning on my son who is 18 yrs old...its killing me tonite...I cant stop crying and feel terrible I had to tell police to tell my son that he is not allowed back home. He flipped out this morning and it was the last straw. He throws things, punches walls, destroys my furniture..tells me I am a f...... this and that...constantly....I have gone thru all my resources for him...he thinks there is nothing wrong with him...its me..always me...so he acts like he hates me so much ..there is no talking whatsoever..i ask him a question and I am a *****...its been only him and I for 18 yrs and I know I have enabled him..did everything for him and I know he gets mad because I still treat him like my little boy...but still, how can you treat him like an adult when he has temper tantrums like a 3 yr old...he doesn't get it...He sleeps all day, has a 2 day a week job at a gym, takes my CPP disability portion now of my cheq..and doesn't give me nothing for food, etc...I am tired of being an abused mom and finally took action this morning. He has taken me off of facebook..that was a disappointment when I went to see where he is or how he feels...you see...I am such an enabler..cant stop thinking how he is, where he is...Thank heavens I have a counsellor apt next week...I need help to stop being a victim of abuse..for all you parents out there...especially moms, as we treat them like our little boys, now he has to fend for himself...it will be hard for him...as I did his laundry, almost wiped his butt...I am going to be strong and stick to my guns...it will be a hard run as I know because 2 yrs ago...I had to call the police and they or myself didn't kick him out but he thought in his head that we did and he left for 5 mos...called and asked to come home and it was okay for a few weeks until he started again...its killing my heart...I am crying while I type here, its almost 11 pm..don't know where he is, he has no clothes as I left for the day...but I ask God to please send him on the right track, I can say one thing of my enabling, I got him out of bed, drove him to school when he didn't want to go..and he graduated gr 12 and got his diploma. Sometimes the enabling is good for a purpose...so this is where the confusion comes in for a single mom...do I kick him which I have done, let him wake up and smell the roses, or did I do a wrong thing