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I have a major problem on my hands. I dont know if many of u know my story I will give u a brief run down. My 19yr difficult child has been a handful all of her life. When she was in 9th grade I had her placed in a short term Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for 6mths. Upon release she became unbearable. I signed her voluntarily over to foster care. She ran a muck and had everyone snowed with her lies. Her fostermom finally caught onto my difficult children ways just before she asked to be release from care because she found out she was pregnant to the idiot she married.
difficult child burned the bridges between forstermom, her nice dcfs worker and myself. She triangulates everyone by playing the victim and pits one person against the other. Upon her release she had her new inlaws on her side (all they seen her for was her money) this happened june 07. sept 07 difficult child got married to her hubby. Fostermom and dcfs worker still care about difficult child, but from a distance like I do.
My 19yr difficult child who is now 36 weeks pregnant wants to divorce her deadbeat husband of 4 months. Her hubby is a juvie sex offender who was incarcerated for 4yrs due to his offense and not complying with the judges orders to participate in programs. He comes from a family where his parents used to be hard core druggies who lie every day to get by. They live off gov. handouts and barely work. They get consistent help from their church then waste their gov money of frivolous junk coz they arent stable people. They cry poor just days after they have blown their money and rely on handouts to make it till their next check. difficult children hubbys mom has serious mental health issues. she oversteps all boundaries.
Back to my daughter: she can see there is no hope staying with her hubby, he has serious mental health & financial problems. He views porn, locks himself in their bathroom and texts some girl he works with. He cant hold a job for very long and has used my daughter name to get approx $800 in debt.
My daughter now wants to move home with us and keep her baby. We have decided we cannot have her live with us coz we like the peace and dont want to go thru the dramas she creates on a consistent basis.
Before she hooked up with this looser she just graduated. Her hubby finished 11th grade, works at walmart. He was just released from custody when they met.
For the babies sake the best thing is for it to be adopted so it doesnt have to live with 2 parents who cant look after themselves. She is 19 he is 18. I do not want to raise her baby. Im done raising kids.
What help is out there for single moms? We cant have her move back with us. She is currently living in an apt with her hubby approx 15 mins from me.
I need advise.
I have a major problem on my hands. I dont know if many of u know my story I will give u a brief run down. My 19yr difficult child has been a handful all of her life. When she was in 9th grade I had her placed in a short term Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for 6mths. Upon release she became unbearable. I signed her voluntarily over to foster care. She ran a muck and had everyone snowed with her lies. Her fostermom finally caught onto my difficult children ways just before she asked to be release from care because she found out she was pregnant to the idiot she married.
difficult child burned the bridges between forstermom, her nice dcfs worker and myself. She triangulates everyone by playing the victim and pits one person against the other. Upon her release she had her new inlaws on her side (all they seen her for was her money) this happened june 07. sept 07 difficult child got married to her hubby. Fostermom and dcfs worker still care about difficult child, but from a distance like I do.
My 19yr difficult child who is now 36 weeks pregnant wants to divorce her deadbeat husband of 4 months. Her hubby is a juvie sex offender who was incarcerated for 4yrs due to his offense and not complying with the judges orders to participate in programs. He comes from a family where his parents used to be hard core druggies who lie every day to get by. They live off gov. handouts and barely work. They get consistent help from their church then waste their gov money of frivolous junk coz they arent stable people. They cry poor just days after they have blown their money and rely on handouts to make it till their next check. difficult children hubbys mom has serious mental health issues. she oversteps all boundaries.
Back to my daughter: she can see there is no hope staying with her hubby, he has serious mental health & financial problems. He views porn, locks himself in their bathroom and texts some girl he works with. He cant hold a job for very long and has used my daughter name to get approx $800 in debt.
My daughter now wants to move home with us and keep her baby. We have decided we cannot have her live with us coz we like the peace and dont want to go thru the dramas she creates on a consistent basis.
Before she hooked up with this looser she just graduated. Her hubby finished 11th grade, works at walmart. He was just released from custody when they met.
For the babies sake the best thing is for it to be adopted so it doesnt have to live with 2 parents who cant look after themselves. She is 19 he is 18. I do not want to raise her baby. Im done raising kids.
What help is out there for single moms? We cant have her move back with us. She is currently living in an apt with her hubby approx 15 mins from me.
I need advise.