When my son (now 19) gets angry - he has headaches, has had headaches and unless he utilizes his anger management techniques will probably always continue to get headaches.
When you get angry - you tense up - when you tense up and stay in a tensed state? You can cause yourself all kinds of problems - muscles spasms, tics, headaches, nausea, vomiting. I mean the list is pretty per-person as to how it can affect you. Some people even black out they get so angry.
Anger management taught my son how to a.) NOT let things get to him = by that I mean how not let things people say be so traumatic or offensive. For starters - know your triggers, learn to count, walk away.
Most people think that being ANGRY is BAD. We equate being angry with being the bad person. Not so. It's OKAY to be angry. It's fine to be angry. But how you HANDLE yourself when you are angry is another thing. How your outward behavior towards others when you are angry or your inward behavior toward yourself when you are angry (processing) is very important. SO Angry - is okay - but throwing, hitting, biting, name calling, breaking things, - NOT okay. Going for a walk, yoga, doing tensing exercises until you think the anger has left your body, punching a pillow, yelling into a pillow, jumping up and down in place - or having a hissy fit - fine as long as your outburst hurts no one or yourself.
Eventually you learn to self-calm and that takes a lot of time - especially if you are raging or have no clue that it's okay to be angry. Most people when a child is angry will tell them first thing - STOP THAT....and I have to ask them - WELL WHY???? WHY can't he be angry? If he can't go pound sand how is he supposed to get all that frustration out of his system? Where do you think all that bottled up rage will eventually go? Just disappear? Nope....it's going to come out someplace.....and part of it? Is going to come at you - and her----and them.....and him....and in a headache.
Breathing techniques and that tense exercise is about the coolest thing I ever had someone teach Dude. Try it - the next time you are (as an adult) frustrated as an adult) sit in a chair. Grab the bottom of the chair with both hands and tense up your entire body as tight as you can from top to bottom and hold it like that for as long as you can - like you are trying to "pass" a bowling ball - (i know sounds awful) and just hold your breath for 30-45 seconds - and then exhale....then inhale and do it again....repeat this for about 3 minutes...and I"m telling you - you are so dang worn out - at the end of this exercise - you can't get too worked up over anything - you have taken tense out of your body, muscles and bones....it's exhausting. The next time your kids are just angry and come home from school like that - tell them to sit in the kitchen chair and try it...three minutes you're a magician - you bet them - you can remove all the anger - but they have to be willing to give you THREE minutes and all the strength in their bodies....they pull up with their arms and push down with the rest of their body - legs and all - and go.......they can breathe because it's hard for kids to hold their breath.....and they just hold this as long as they can until they let go - and when they stop - say REPEAT....and lets see how long you can HOLD.....IT.....GO. and do it over for at least three minutes.....they will get up and feel like limp noodles.
It's an anti-anger exercise. - really. really.
It's not a great one to do in school - but at home? YEah - really good. And it helps them to learn self - control. For three minutes - he had total control over what he did - entirely - praise him and let him go - it will really help him feel better.
And as far as a neuro - well I have severe migraines and they are genetic so Dude has them too. I take 2 kinds of medicines - but my best bit of advice for anyone who has migraines is to start a migraine diary -
Weather - (VERY IMPORTANT) sunny, overcast, cloudy, humitity, temp.
Time-
Food eaten prior -
Drinks -(pay special attention to caffeine intake)
Activity prior -
Sleep amt -
Duration -
Side of head -left right
Front back
Do this DAILY for about three months -
IF no headache - write NONE - but keep a chart of the weather....that day...
Hope this helps
WElcome to the family!
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