SuZir
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Saw difficult child briefly today, or well, saw him plenty, met him briefly. They had a on the road game near enough us and me and husband went. He even played (they were short of players, didn't have much choice but play him) and did well enough. Were able to chat with him a little while afterwards. Good news is, that he seemed more self-confident and much less beaten than week ago. Seemed to have gotten some of his fight back. Could of course be just adrenaline etc. boost from the game. We mostly only talked about safe topics, the game, next game, his dog, easy child's game earlier today etc. but he did talk and was involved. Big change from week ago.
He had also posted some lyrics to his FB status earlier (I think we have talked about that difficult child/young people habit before here) and while the quote was rather dark the theme of the song is about not giving up and keeping going through the dark times. I choose to take that too as a positive thing.
At least he looks to be quite sheltered. We noticed it during the game and especially after it. Probably not noticeable to casual observer, but when knowing the situation, it was clear that difficult child's team mates didn't allow much chirping from opposing team and made very sure they played nicely at handshakes. Also after game when I and husband were looking for difficult child and saw him, there was his team mate blocking the path to him from us (he of course didn't know us, we got through after introducing ourselves.) So they certainly keep stranger away from him and take care he is not taunted with any of this during the games.
Bad news is, that only thing he did say that is related to this situation or how he is feeling wasn't that good. He has had lots of sleep problems. He can sleep okayish if he takes his Atarax. If not he either doesn't get sleep or wakes up after few hours and can't go back to sleep. Or both. But he doesn't want to take Atarax nightly, because it makes him feel little slower next morning till sometime afternoon. And if he takes an Ambien he has nightmares and feels lousy at the morning because of those. So again, sleep is getting to be an issue. (His sleep was already much better after Christmas.)
But, yeah, he is hanging in there. And even looking towards people again (not to the eyes, but at least somewhere near the face.)
He had also posted some lyrics to his FB status earlier (I think we have talked about that difficult child/young people habit before here) and while the quote was rather dark the theme of the song is about not giving up and keeping going through the dark times. I choose to take that too as a positive thing.
At least he looks to be quite sheltered. We noticed it during the game and especially after it. Probably not noticeable to casual observer, but when knowing the situation, it was clear that difficult child's team mates didn't allow much chirping from opposing team and made very sure they played nicely at handshakes. Also after game when I and husband were looking for difficult child and saw him, there was his team mate blocking the path to him from us (he of course didn't know us, we got through after introducing ourselves.) So they certainly keep stranger away from him and take care he is not taunted with any of this during the games.
Bad news is, that only thing he did say that is related to this situation or how he is feeling wasn't that good. He has had lots of sleep problems. He can sleep okayish if he takes his Atarax. If not he either doesn't get sleep or wakes up after few hours and can't go back to sleep. Or both. But he doesn't want to take Atarax nightly, because it makes him feel little slower next morning till sometime afternoon. And if he takes an Ambien he has nightmares and feels lousy at the morning because of those. So again, sleep is getting to be an issue. (His sleep was already much better after Christmas.)
But, yeah, he is hanging in there. And even looking towards people again (not to the eyes, but at least somewhere near the face.)