I just came back from dropping difficult child to his train. Our weekend went much better than I feared. In fact it was almost fun to have difficult child here - and it had been really fun to have him, if I wouldn't had been waiting other shoe to drop. I also believe that day with father in law and actually having a talk with his dad did world of good to him. (I did try to pry what they talked about from husband. "Things", he told me. How very enlightening. And when I asked difficult child what took them so long: "We talked", was his version. So I think I may safely assume they consider it private between two of them. But both were calm after that so I think they most likely had a good chat.) Except Thursday night when he was being horrible, difficult child was actually nice to be around. Went ice fishing with father in law, played outside with easy child, went with us to cheer for easy child at his game, helped a bit with kitchen reno and was very much taking part. He slept really a lot though, almost double his normal, I think. May be that he was sleep deprived when he came, he said he hadn't been able to sleep well and in certain situations not at all. Could of course also be a sign of depression. I also had a nagging feeling that I was missing something. What that was I understood just before it was time for him to go. difficult child was behaving and relating to us extremely childlike whole time he was here. That I hadn't seen from him in long time, in almost three years. Last year he lived at home he was secretive and withdrawn (and active addict like we later found out, and of course hiding the incident that caused also this crisis.) After he moves out of home he continued to be withdrawn and quite quickly also become quite independent. Year ago he started to be more open and forthcoming with us, but it was clear that in all his immaturity, in certain level he was an independent adult. When he was here some time last summer, he was having different roles too and at times reminded more the surly teenager or curious smaller child he used to be and at times was in fact quite delightful young man, but still behind that it was very clear, he was making his decisions independently and didn't consider that he would have to answer to us. Now he wasn't relating to us like independent adult, but it really was like he would had been a child again, back living at home. This is difficult to explain and I was only able to put it into words to myself just before he was leaving and called his girlfriend about picking him up from train and called few other people and I saw him shift back to an adult role. It is difficult to explain, but the shift was so clear that I can't explain it any other way than that few days he was being a child again. Okay, I'm being an armchair psychologist here, but maybe that was, what he needed from us now. Few easy days to rest both physically and mentally by taking a role of a carefree child without the pressure of being in charge of his own life. I may be naive, but for that we are happy to oblige and I hope that helps him to carry on little bit further again. If nothing else, I got a bone-tired kid spoiling for fight and I sent back much calmer and rested kid, so I will declare it a success.