So how come when I am trying to deal with K of course other caca has to come up??? So my Aunt e-mails me the my other Aunt has a brain tumor and it is cancerous, inoperable... I have not seen either of them in years, the one who is dieing in over 20 years. So while my Aunt is telling me this, she tells me my Father, who I have not talked to since I was pregnant with K, was in town last week... He was renewing his license, getting a physical and registering his truck??? He lives in Mexico. So she says he wants to contact me. I write her back and say, I don't care. I only think he said that to look good in front of her, lip service. I said as long as he doesn't contact me with his drama and lies. So I didn't hear back from her, this was Saturday. Monday my Father e-mails me!!! This is the man that has been in and out of prison, heroin addict, drug addict, alcoholic, I didn't meet him until I was 13, and lived with him until I was 17, the whole time I lived with him he fed me drugs, taught me how to free base... I was out all hours. No control, when I had a breakdown, he yelled at me and said I just was looking for attention... He has been a drug dealer and a scammer his whole life. But in between he has managed to fool everyone he come in contact with, he was on the chamber of commerce here, etc. He always made me and his wife look like the crazy ones. He has denied most things or said I never forced you to do anything... I came to him at 13 looking for stability, from my Mom commiting suicide and my adopted dad abusing me and just having a violent miscarriage. He acted like none of it happened and continued to mentally beat me down for years. So now he is like "Well I said sorry either you get over it or not" but I don't ever see a change, at least in the past. When husband met him 7 years ago he hated the way he treated me. So my father writes that he was here and by my house and looking for property here!!! He is looking for a summer home here. He claims he didn't know I lived here and thought I was still in Chicago, he said my brother, who is messed up, told him after they were out of town that I lived here??? And he was going to get in touch with me but then he found out about his sister and had to leave.... They are both liers. My brother would lie because he likes the fact that we don't talk, my dad is just a lier. So I write him back and say thanks for letting me know about my aunt and that my family is fine thanks. I guess I just don't know how to feel or what to do? He is like nothing ever happened and everything is fine... I have no idea if he knows about my children? My brother and my aunt do, but they are so dense they might not say anything... My family is just so utterly messed up... I don't need any more drama. I will not let this into my children's lives. They don't even know he exists. I hate to say it but part of me wishes he would just go away and stay away, but he always resurfaces every few years. Part of me hates him... When I think of what he put me through and how much help I needed in my teens I feel so much rage. I think I needed to get this off of my chest... thanks ladies.