pigless in VA
Well-Known Member
Good morning, everyone. My heart is truly heavy this morning. This isn't a "call a friend" sort of problem, and so I find myself back with those who I know understand and can offer advice. It will take awhile for me to catch everyone up completely but some of you will remember that my son has struggled with severe anger issues since he was 3.
Last night, he went to the kitchen and drew a carving knife on me. He has threatened me with other smaller knives in the past, but my patience is gone. He hurt my daughter earlier in the day. I caught him sitting on her neck and back and holding her face so she couldn't breathe. He is threatening to kill my partner and my daughter.
I decided that what we are doing is obviously not working. He has been seeing a therapist for at least the past 5 years, maybe longer. Diagnosis is ADHD at present. My personal opinion is that he is angry at the world and has been for years. He refuses ADHD medications and typcially functions fairly well without them.
I will call and request an appointment with the therapist to discuss his past anger issues and strategies for changing this unacceptable behavior. therapist is currently excusing his behaviors due to his father becoming psychotic and then committing suicide. I do not see insanity in my son at present. He has too much control over his actions for that. What I do see is a continuing bid for negative attention. The pattern is 3 weeks of good behavior and then a day or two of nasty angry stuff.
I decided last night that I'm not waiting for him to use that knife on someone. It's time to send him away for awhile - camp this summer and possibly an alternative school.
Thanks for being a group who understands.
Last night, he went to the kitchen and drew a carving knife on me. He has threatened me with other smaller knives in the past, but my patience is gone. He hurt my daughter earlier in the day. I caught him sitting on her neck and back and holding her face so she couldn't breathe. He is threatening to kill my partner and my daughter.
I decided that what we are doing is obviously not working. He has been seeing a therapist for at least the past 5 years, maybe longer. Diagnosis is ADHD at present. My personal opinion is that he is angry at the world and has been for years. He refuses ADHD medications and typcially functions fairly well without them.
I will call and request an appointment with the therapist to discuss his past anger issues and strategies for changing this unacceptable behavior. therapist is currently excusing his behaviors due to his father becoming psychotic and then committing suicide. I do not see insanity in my son at present. He has too much control over his actions for that. What I do see is a continuing bid for negative attention. The pattern is 3 weeks of good behavior and then a day or two of nasty angry stuff.
I decided last night that I'm not waiting for him to use that knife on someone. It's time to send him away for awhile - camp this summer and possibly an alternative school.
Thanks for being a group who understands.