Hi, I posted once before a while ago. difficult child now back with abusive boyfriend. She got a $750 settlement for an accident he caused, plus she has been working part-time, so she had some money saved up. She's been back with him about 3 weeks, and has spent all the money she had buying him marijuana. As you can imagine, they're very happy right now. She's also back to stealing - went with wife to the old folk's home where grandmother lives - she stole her jewelry, including her wedding ring. Luckily, wife found it in her purse before she could sell it. Her computer history showed she had looked up places to sell gold (she would have gotten pennies on the dollar of what it was worth). After that happened, we confronted her, and her first response was to lie - "I found it by the bus stop." Like we wouldn't ask wife's mom if it was her jewelry. After it was confirmed to be grandma's, when we asked her why she stole it, response was, "I don't know" or "I don't remember" in a very flippant way. We kicked her out for 4 days ( I wanted to, and still want to, kick her out for good - wife won't hear of it). I am very close to moving out myself. I have told wife this. She's trapped in a cycle of enabling difficult child, trying to fix things for her, doing things for her that just get thrown back in her face. I don't know what it will take for her to wake up. I literally can't take it anymore. Seeing the mask of pain that her face becomes when difficult child once again betrays an (undeserved) trust. Wife is planning to take difficult child to the old folk's home again! I don't want to cause her pain by leaving, but I can't live like this anymore - the grandma incident is only one thing that happened, there are MANY more.