tiredmommy
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Thanks RFS. Duckie is *almost* a easy child so I think she'll struggle with this stuff for awhile. We've been talking about friends and frenemies and I've been trying to make Duckie see that being in a clique isn't the right thing for her for most of this school year(she almost assuredly would be the lowest on the totem pole). I've been stressing friends with shared interests and not being dependent on one friend or group of friends. I'll look into that book.
One thing I have noticed is that Duckie started to be "out" after she was recently cast in a community play where several of her friends auditioned. Only one other girl in this little popular group was cast, and it was for the ensemble rather than a defined role like Duckie. Not one of them was happy for her and being in a musical is no longer a big deal to those that didn't make it. Duckie's bff's mom asked me why I thought Duckie did so well when the other girls (her daughters included) didn't make it (she wasn't threatened, just curious). I said that a lot of the girls were running around at the audition and I'm sure that didn't reflect well. Plus, Duckie worked very hard preparing for the audition by taking some singing lessons, practicing voice everyday, reading passages aloud and dancing regularly for TWO MONTHS before the audition. She was very happy for Duckie and was glad I told her how hard Duckie worked for it because her daughters were a little jealous that they didn't make it. She felt she could use it as a lesson in working for something they wanted. She also said she was going to talk to them about being happy for Duckie because that's what a friend would be. Also, I realized at the audition that when 80+ kids tried out for 25 spots that there were going to be some very hard feelings to deal with. So Duckie was directed by me not to talk about the call back she received and just answer yes to friends when they asked if she made the production. No bragging, etc. And that's what she did, but a few girls are still jealous. But that's the nature of the beast, I suppose.
And by the way, Heathers is one of my favorite movies! Cornnuts!!! As for her teacher... we're looping into 5th grade. The good news is that she sent me an email about a scheduling issue and made no mention of this. I imagine she would have clued me in if there to be further ramifications on Tuesday.
One thing I have noticed is that Duckie started to be "out" after she was recently cast in a community play where several of her friends auditioned. Only one other girl in this little popular group was cast, and it was for the ensemble rather than a defined role like Duckie. Not one of them was happy for her and being in a musical is no longer a big deal to those that didn't make it. Duckie's bff's mom asked me why I thought Duckie did so well when the other girls (her daughters included) didn't make it (she wasn't threatened, just curious). I said that a lot of the girls were running around at the audition and I'm sure that didn't reflect well. Plus, Duckie worked very hard preparing for the audition by taking some singing lessons, practicing voice everyday, reading passages aloud and dancing regularly for TWO MONTHS before the audition. She was very happy for Duckie and was glad I told her how hard Duckie worked for it because her daughters were a little jealous that they didn't make it. She felt she could use it as a lesson in working for something they wanted. She also said she was going to talk to them about being happy for Duckie because that's what a friend would be. Also, I realized at the audition that when 80+ kids tried out for 25 spots that there were going to be some very hard feelings to deal with. So Duckie was directed by me not to talk about the call back she received and just answer yes to friends when they asked if she made the production. No bragging, etc. And that's what she did, but a few girls are still jealous. But that's the nature of the beast, I suppose.
And by the way, Heathers is one of my favorite movies! Cornnuts!!! As for her teacher... we're looping into 5th grade. The good news is that she sent me an email about a scheduling issue and made no mention of this. I imagine she would have clued me in if there to be further ramifications on Tuesday.