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toughlovin
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So I was expecting a text from my son today asking me to reload the grocery card. I had decided I would put a little on for the next couple of days until he hopefully gets back to the sober house. I want him to eat (he has no extra fat) and although I want him to learn the tough lessons about being on the street (or on the beach) I don't want to put him in a position where he feels his only way to get food is to steal.. now if he is trying to wait it out until they will take him back.
So the text I got today was "Don't reload the gift card"... and when I asked why I didn't get a response. So my imagination took off... he must have been arrested (oh then how would he text me), maybe he went back into tx and could text me on the way, maybe he was caught shoplifting and was tresspassed from the store.... you get the picture.
He finally did text me back and the most obvious answer was the right one which is he lost his wallet!!! Bwahhhhhhhh....lol.... my imagination really is sometimes worse than reality!
So I ended up calling the store, and helped him get a new gift card which I loaded with what was left on the old one plus a little more. In the process of doing this we had to talk on the phone. He sounded good on the phone, still strong, probably sober (at least he didn't sound high), he sounded alive and well. So that is a relief. And although giving him money on the grocery card may be enabling him a bit I feel likke it is the right thing to do. Giving him a bike or a hotel room would not be, but letting him get some food feels like the right thing.
Then he texted me and asked me to check the weather for where he is and I did and texted it to him. There is a chance of showers so I Was wondering if he would beg me for a hotel room. He did not he just texted me thank you. So he may get wet tonight.... but it does not sound like a terrible storm.
Anyway it is such a balancing act between supporting and loving them and not enabling them isn't it?
TL
So the text I got today was "Don't reload the gift card"... and when I asked why I didn't get a response. So my imagination took off... he must have been arrested (oh then how would he text me), maybe he went back into tx and could text me on the way, maybe he was caught shoplifting and was tresspassed from the store.... you get the picture.
He finally did text me back and the most obvious answer was the right one which is he lost his wallet!!! Bwahhhhhhhh....lol.... my imagination really is sometimes worse than reality!
So I ended up calling the store, and helped him get a new gift card which I loaded with what was left on the old one plus a little more. In the process of doing this we had to talk on the phone. He sounded good on the phone, still strong, probably sober (at least he didn't sound high), he sounded alive and well. So that is a relief. And although giving him money on the grocery card may be enabling him a bit I feel likke it is the right thing to do. Giving him a bike or a hotel room would not be, but letting him get some food feels like the right thing.
Then he texted me and asked me to check the weather for where he is and I did and texted it to him. There is a chance of showers so I Was wondering if he would beg me for a hotel room. He did not he just texted me thank you. So he may get wet tonight.... but it does not sound like a terrible storm.
Anyway it is such a balancing act between supporting and loving them and not enabling them isn't it?
TL