I'm not sure how to proceed. Katie hasn't responded to a single message since monday when she claimed that M had moved to the shelter. Which I know he isn't allowed in any shelter in the state until May. (they'd already reached their max time for a year) I'll grant you that right now I don't have much patience, especially with her. I haven't given her a bit of sympathy or even empathy at her current "situation" (mostly because I don't believe for a second it's changed) I didn't play the game this time. I'm just not up to playing the game these days. I'm finding myself at a low boil that she's not responded to any of the messages inquiring about her and the kids welfare over the past days. She was supposed to call me Tuesday morning, but of course didn't. Not only was I awake, I have caller ID both on the house phone and the cell phone. No call. easy child messaged her to tell her she hopes that they'll come to the party since it is especially for the grandkids. That she understands she's embarrassed ect, but it would be selfish to make the kids miss the party they were looking forward to when it would give them something fun and normal to focus on for a while. She ignored easy child as well. Now am I wrong in assuming that a "normal" person would not be mad at family who are only trying to protect her children? I mean that obviously shows we love and care for their welfare. And in all honesty.....her keeping them out of our lives all those years, she should be grateful those feelings are still there to begin with. And since we're being ignored, I'm guessing she's pretty POed at us. I'm having a LOT of trouble not really truly giving her a full piece of my mind tonight. I mean you know, we've bought her kids clothes, xmas for 2 yrs (I mean the complete xmas), school supplies, toted them around town, let them stay here with me when they showed up on the doorstep unwanted, ect.........pointed out to her that her perv of a husband was flashing himself to the world, let her know he had a nude picture of her daughter online.............And she gets mad at US, not him, us. He's not feeding them, clothing them, buying the school supplies and xmas and halloween yadda yadda.........and she's mad at us. Yeah, that makes a LOT of sense. You know what she told me when she was going on and on about the picture and making him leave? Oh.....I just can't believe the man who was the only one who helped me through my grandpa's death could do such a thing. Really? Her grandpa died when she was 16 for Chrissake, that was 16 yrs ago! She told me herself he's been doing this for years and years. omg She's known about it and tolerated it "because he helped me with my grandpa's death". I realize grief can be crippling. (boy do I realize that) But c'mon! And that ticks me off because all she had to do was make a phone call to US and we'd have helped her! (but M and biomom had convinced her that husband and I didn't give a d#mn about her, which I don't believe that her biomom did, out of character) She wasn't concerned with the kids. She wasn't concerned whether or not he might have done something to the kids. She was only concerned with whether or not this would make her lose HER apartment. So there could be a few different things going on. 1. They could be preparing to run, or have already convince the neighbor to take them to cincy and are already gone. 2. I was thinking she's just doing her normal game and waiting for me to play my part thinking she convinced me she'd "done something" (not so sure now, doesn't mesh with the ignoring deal going on) 3. Either the police or cps or both have started an investigation, in which case I am the bad guy for taking steps to protect the kids from their sperm donor. Which means the whole family are tossed into the same boat. Now if you're trying to convince someone "that you've finally seen the light", you don't ignore them when they inquire how you're doing ect. Because to ignore someone implies that your p*ssed at them. Which would not be an appropriate response with "I've seen the light" And I have no trouble believing she can tell her neighbor friend one huge whopping lie to get her to take her to cincy to the bus station. (seems this friend has been toting her around town when I won't) I already know from their own mouths one of the reasons they were suddenly so determined to get out of Mo is because cps was after them. So running again is highly likely if she has any hint I took action. All she'd need is money for the bus tickets. Last time she could've cared less about having money for a motel, food, or even drinks for a 12-16 hr trip. ** police know about the open file with Mo cps because I told the officer, they know M's felony, they know he's armed with a switchblade he likes to sharpen in front of his kids** I hope to high heaven he looked up what that felony convinction was for (I gave him M's birthday) and checked with Mo's cps and it was enough to make them act one way or another. So. Whatcha think? I'm going to message her again tonight before going off to bed asking about how they're doing and whether or not she's going to come to the party. Because I really need to know if she's going to do the darn party or not if nothing else. If I still don't get a response, I'm going to start calling her. I know she probably won't pick up. BUT I've got a trick up my sleeve......I'll use Travis' cell phone to call if I can't get her to pick up with mine. And I swear I'm really trying to keep myself distracted from this........but well, I can't help worrying about the grandkids.