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My 22 year old child will not drive, walk or ride a bus. She will not go to college or work. She also will not lift a finger around the house. My 22 year old child sits in front of the TV all day & judges people...both characters &/or the stars behind the characters. When she's not in front of the TV then she's on Facebook either doing the same thing (judging people) or she's posting some witty comment thinking even if all people do is "like" it that's better then nothing.
My 22 year old child will not be responsible for herself. She will not worry about insurance. She will not worry about her own doctors/shrinks/etc. She will not worry about applying for Gov't assts...either welfare or disability. She flat will not worry. My only child's obviously mentally ill. Yet the last 2 times I took her to so called licensed pros they told me she's "just fine".
Let's start from the beginning. My mom had 4 kids by 3 men & the first 2 took off. The 3rd stuck around long enough to screw everybody up. So we've been physically abused by our dad & verbally/mentally abused by especially one older 1/2 sib. Then our mom got her 4th man who joined our older 1/2 sib in verbally/mentally abusing us.
The verbal/mental abuse continued well into adulthood including right in front of my only child. Her, ummmm, donor was way too much like my bro & step-dad so I dumped him before I realized I was pregnant. So it's been 3 a-holes against me...I've had no love/respect/help/support or back-up ever. I take that back...I had one person who loved me. He had a biopsy on a Friday & was dead by Monday of cancer. I was 11 when my grandpa basically dropped dead. I haven't had anybody since.
My kid was basically born with health problems & kept them 'til she was 10. When she was a couple of months old I got in a wreck that left my car totaled & I've been dealing with problems since. People could see the kid coughing & puking & my totaled car in the drive-way yet our problems were either my fault &/or excuses to sit at home on my butt & be stupid, lazy, worthless trash.
We had 3 a-holes & no village so we lived in the projects on $200/mo child support, food stamps & Medicaid. All of them are a joke...every last one. From the child support to the projects to the food stamps to the Medicaid.
I don't know how we started thinking if a parent pays so much per month that's the end of their responsibility. 5 men in my immediate family alone had/have absolutely no concern for their child's physical/mental or spiritual health. 5 men in my immediate family alone. At least 1 is dead now but at least 3 have yet to be involved in any kind of long term mental health care.
Single parents & their children, the disabled & the elderly are dumped into hell holes & between the dumps, the food stamps & the Medicaid they stay sick. Then people say we're ripping off the Gov't or we want this. When your own pathological family believes this...then there really is no help anywhere.
Almost as soon as my kid was born she was sick. Almost as soon as she could walk she was a walking behavioral problem. If you told her to do something she wouldn't. If you told her not to do something she would. And she trashed everything she could get her hands on...eventually this would include furniture & cars.
During the day when she should've been playing she was up my rear-end. If others came over with kids she was up my rear. The phone rings...she's up my rear. But 2-3 a.m. when she should be sleeping...she's up not only playing by herself but having full blown conversations with herself.
On top of this I could teach her nothing. She wouldn't have anything to do with roller skates or blades, bikes - nothing like that. She also won't have anything to do with the great outdoors...lakes, camping, swimming, etc. I'd never let her out alone in the projects. But I'd try to take her outside the projects & she didn't want anything to do with anything. Movies, music & eventually computer games & the net...that's it for her.
I lost babysitters...& I thought it was because she was sick but it was because she was a spoiled brat. Regardless...when I was unemployed I was bashed the whole time I was unemployed. And to buy extras like clothes & shoes I worked for my mom on the weekends cleaning & mowing...so my abusers had a shot every weekend & every holiday.
Then school started & by the 1st grade they were telling me my kid had ADD/ADHD. So I started taking her to various people...doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists - she even had tests - & they could tell me nothing for sure. I mean nothing...not about ADD/ADHD or anything else for that matter. For a while I was dealing with her physical & mental health both at the same time...& no help what-so-ever.
Before school started she didn't want men around much but after school started & she realized what dad's were & that most kids have them she wanted one. So we got her one. As long as he paid attention to her things were fine. But should he pay attention to me... Well we spent most of our almost 3 year marriage with them fighting over homework at the dinner table every night.
In the meantime my granny died, my step-dad had triple by-pass surgery, my uncle had a perforated ulcer & a staff infection, my cousin was in a wreck & almost died & as soon as her mom/my aunt nursed her back to health my aunt died due to an error at the hospital. I lost a few puppies. I worked a job I hated mostly for the insurance. Plus I was getting sicker myself & doctors weren't helping me anymore then they was my kid.
I had my 1st nervous breakdown & the shrinks called me depressed & tried shoving pills down my throat. All they did was almost kill me plus cause even more health problems. So I dumped the pills down the toilet, got a divorce, got my kid physically healthy, was wrongfully terminated & lost my insurance & I've been rotting ever since.
Of course I already know from previous experience there's no help so sick or not I worked & I bought all new furniture, a new car & had great insurance. Then the **** hit the fan.
My 22 year old child will not be responsible for herself. She will not worry about insurance. She will not worry about her own doctors/shrinks/etc. She will not worry about applying for Gov't assts...either welfare or disability. She flat will not worry. My only child's obviously mentally ill. Yet the last 2 times I took her to so called licensed pros they told me she's "just fine".
Let's start from the beginning. My mom had 4 kids by 3 men & the first 2 took off. The 3rd stuck around long enough to screw everybody up. So we've been physically abused by our dad & verbally/mentally abused by especially one older 1/2 sib. Then our mom got her 4th man who joined our older 1/2 sib in verbally/mentally abusing us.
The verbal/mental abuse continued well into adulthood including right in front of my only child. Her, ummmm, donor was way too much like my bro & step-dad so I dumped him before I realized I was pregnant. So it's been 3 a-holes against me...I've had no love/respect/help/support or back-up ever. I take that back...I had one person who loved me. He had a biopsy on a Friday & was dead by Monday of cancer. I was 11 when my grandpa basically dropped dead. I haven't had anybody since.
My kid was basically born with health problems & kept them 'til she was 10. When she was a couple of months old I got in a wreck that left my car totaled & I've been dealing with problems since. People could see the kid coughing & puking & my totaled car in the drive-way yet our problems were either my fault &/or excuses to sit at home on my butt & be stupid, lazy, worthless trash.
We had 3 a-holes & no village so we lived in the projects on $200/mo child support, food stamps & Medicaid. All of them are a joke...every last one. From the child support to the projects to the food stamps to the Medicaid.
I don't know how we started thinking if a parent pays so much per month that's the end of their responsibility. 5 men in my immediate family alone had/have absolutely no concern for their child's physical/mental or spiritual health. 5 men in my immediate family alone. At least 1 is dead now but at least 3 have yet to be involved in any kind of long term mental health care.
Single parents & their children, the disabled & the elderly are dumped into hell holes & between the dumps, the food stamps & the Medicaid they stay sick. Then people say we're ripping off the Gov't or we want this. When your own pathological family believes this...then there really is no help anywhere.
Almost as soon as my kid was born she was sick. Almost as soon as she could walk she was a walking behavioral problem. If you told her to do something she wouldn't. If you told her not to do something she would. And she trashed everything she could get her hands on...eventually this would include furniture & cars.
During the day when she should've been playing she was up my rear-end. If others came over with kids she was up my rear. The phone rings...she's up my rear. But 2-3 a.m. when she should be sleeping...she's up not only playing by herself but having full blown conversations with herself.
On top of this I could teach her nothing. She wouldn't have anything to do with roller skates or blades, bikes - nothing like that. She also won't have anything to do with the great outdoors...lakes, camping, swimming, etc. I'd never let her out alone in the projects. But I'd try to take her outside the projects & she didn't want anything to do with anything. Movies, music & eventually computer games & the net...that's it for her.
I lost babysitters...& I thought it was because she was sick but it was because she was a spoiled brat. Regardless...when I was unemployed I was bashed the whole time I was unemployed. And to buy extras like clothes & shoes I worked for my mom on the weekends cleaning & mowing...so my abusers had a shot every weekend & every holiday.
Then school started & by the 1st grade they were telling me my kid had ADD/ADHD. So I started taking her to various people...doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists - she even had tests - & they could tell me nothing for sure. I mean nothing...not about ADD/ADHD or anything else for that matter. For a while I was dealing with her physical & mental health both at the same time...& no help what-so-ever.
Before school started she didn't want men around much but after school started & she realized what dad's were & that most kids have them she wanted one. So we got her one. As long as he paid attention to her things were fine. But should he pay attention to me... Well we spent most of our almost 3 year marriage with them fighting over homework at the dinner table every night.
In the meantime my granny died, my step-dad had triple by-pass surgery, my uncle had a perforated ulcer & a staff infection, my cousin was in a wreck & almost died & as soon as her mom/my aunt nursed her back to health my aunt died due to an error at the hospital. I lost a few puppies. I worked a job I hated mostly for the insurance. Plus I was getting sicker myself & doctors weren't helping me anymore then they was my kid.
I had my 1st nervous breakdown & the shrinks called me depressed & tried shoving pills down my throat. All they did was almost kill me plus cause even more health problems. So I dumped the pills down the toilet, got a divorce, got my kid physically healthy, was wrongfully terminated & lost my insurance & I've been rotting ever since.
Of course I already know from previous experience there's no help so sick or not I worked & I bought all new furniture, a new car & had great insurance. Then the **** hit the fan.